Post # 1
The sad thing about it is that I talk to him at least once a month, just talked to him YESTERDAY in fact, and he didn’t tell me. Because he knew it would cause a waiting freak out. That almost makes me sadder than if he’d just told me.
He sees me waiting and I tell him all the time, if you love this girl enough to marry her, don’t make her wait. If you don’t love her that much, figure it out quickly. He always replied with, believe me… I’ve learned something from your situation. So, now, they’re engaged after about 7 months of dating.
I’m happy for him, but seriously, this is like the 3rd couple I know who has dated a lot less time and are engaged. I know not to compare my situation to others but sometimes I can’t help it. I also know that MY situation helped THEIR situation move a little faster. I just wish someone would help my SO get his rear in gear!
Post # 3
If it makes you feel any better, we dated for over 5 years before he proposed!! There have been people who met, dated, got engaged AND married before we will!
Post # 4
If it makes you feel any better… my sister’s husband didn’t propose to her till AFTER their 10 year anniversary!!! I would’ve probably given him an ultimatum by year 5 haha
Post # 5
Getting engaged first doesnt mean much to be honest. And even getting married first doesnt mean a couple is happy or in love. I know its difficult but I would try not to compare because each relationship is different, and sometimes those who rush in end up wishing they had taken their time a bit more
Post # 6
((((hugs)))) That can’t be easy 🙁
Post # 6
Girls, I totally agree with all your replies! Every once in awhile I’m glad that we’re not engaged yet, because when we get married, we’ll be buying a house at the same time (whereas if we were already married, we’d be living in a rental) and I see lots of other benefits, too! But waiting sucks anyway, and until it actually happens you can’t be 100% sure that it will.
I’m pretty sure we’ll get married. We talk about it and he seems on the same page, but I’m one of those people that can’t FULLY believe until it’s done. Not a great trait maybe, but I am the way I am!!
Post # 7
My Darling Husband and I had been dating for 3 years and lived together when my ex proposed to his girlfriend of 2 years. They got divorced a little over a year later.
Post # 8
On the plus side – at least your ex took something from it and has made a firm decision to either take his lady off the market or let her go. Waiting is frustrating but it’s nice to know another guy out there learned from it. And I hear you with the you’ll believe it when you see it. I’m the same way. It’s not bad. It’s realistic. No point in putting your eggs all in one hopeful basket. Cause in the end it’s just a hope. Here’s to hoping you get taken off the market sooner than later. 🙂
Post # 10
2 of my exes just got engaged over the past 2 months… and I’m not even seeing anyone.
Post # 12
@Elleymae: I can see that just being….weird! I also would feel like “that” woman. You know, the practice one that guys date before they move onto the real deal. =/
I also am a person who can’t fully believe something like this until it’s there in front of me….literally, so I totally sympathize. I also wish someone would help my guy out! If there was just something/someone to help him walk in the right direction.
Until then, wait wait wait.
Post # 13
One of my exes got a girl pregnant and then married her. i found out on Facebook! I just hope that they have a lifetime of happiness and a marriage that lasts forever.
I bet all of us here waiting wish someone would get our SOs to get their “rear in gear!”
Post # 14
I bet it’s frustrating! Well, actually, I would know. I dated Fiance for 5 years before he proposed. This may will be 6!
Post # 15
Ohhhh, that’s the worst. I had a mini freak out when my ex got engaged over christmas. Then another ex last week! I called my bestie and like yelled “every boy I’ve ever dated is either married, or engaged! arghhh!!” lol. I feel likewise, definitely happy for them, but it was still like like “SON OF A….” lol.