My ex-lover (now really good friend) and my best friend…

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
6161 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

You’ve only met him a couple of months ago, in may, and he’s your best friend? No. You need to let this man go, cut him out of your life. He’s never going to give you what you want and you’re only going to be stalled in life because of him. .it’s also very unfair of you to guilthim about sleeping with your friend when you told him that you had slept with someone else. Obviously friends with benefits, or casual sex don’t work for you. Let him.go, focus on yourself. It’s the only way.

Post # 3
5644 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

This sounds so highschool. This guy doesn’t want a relationship with you and you still seem to be hanging on for that, despite trying to convince yourself that you aren’t.

Your friend is the only one who really did anything wrong here and I would be weary calling somelime that a “best friend”. 

Post # 5
6161 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

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sapphire88 :  8 months? You wrote a couple of months ago you met him off tinder. Anyways, I stand by what I originally wrote and that it’s better for u to cut him off. You’re just wasting your time with him, he will never give you what you want.

Post # 6
8916 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

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sapphire88 :  If you only met this bloke 8 months ago, it seems like there has already been way too much drama. He wasn’t willing commit to you but now he has “messed up” he loves you? Nope, total BS. Cut him out.


As for your “best” friend -I would be reconsidering that friendship too. If she knew the full story what she did was really shitty. 

Post # 7
1478 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I’d block him immediately. He doesn’t want you, doesn’t respect you and brings you embarrassment and pain. You’ve only known him 8 months. That’s more than enough drama from him.

Girlfriend gets put on ice.  The only reason I might let her back into the inner circle is if drinking excessively and sleeping with inappropriate people is something she considers a problem and wants to stop. If (huge if) this is more rock bottom/ cry for help (for her) than just a fun time, I’d consider moving on from the betrayal.

Your friend was plastered. Was TinderTurd? The inebriation in this story makes me confused about consent.

Post # 10
576 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2018 - City, State

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sapphire88 :  

I personally would be cutting them both off even if only temporarily.

for him- to get over him for sure. You can’t get over feelings if you are in constant contact and social media etc it’s just a constant reminder

for her – she knew you were struggling with having feelings still, and he was the one person noff limits. secondly she came to visit you and spent half of it with him. not cook. all round dog act in my book. 

I’d want total space until I got my head and heart in the right place. 

Post # 11
2664 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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sapphire88 :  but he’s not and never was your boyfriend so I don’t know where you get off judging her for mistakes?

He. Doesn’t. Want. You.

Time to move on.

Post # 13
415 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

The roommate told you he was crying? He said he loves you and doesn’t want to lose you? But he doesn’t want to date you. Ok. 1. he’s a wuss bag if he’s crying over your feelings being hurt that he slept with your friend (what is this Dawson’s Creek?) 2. he sounds like he has split personality disorder if he says he doesn’t want to be with you and then going through all this work to appologize to you and 3. he’s a fuck boy. sorry but he is. He wanted to keep you on the back burner and no woman deserves to be on the back burner. As for your friend if you had to ask her before anything happened with the guy not to sleep with him than you knew this was going to happen before it did. It sounds like she’s just looking out for herself so you will want to distance yourself from her. Any woman who chooses a guy over friendship isn’t a friend. 

Post # 14
184 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

You don’t need friends like that… what’s the point of a best friend you can’t trust? It doesn’t matter if you’re not in a relationship with the guy, you slept with him and have feelings for him, told her not to hook up with him and she still did it. I bet there was plenty of potential other hook up for her that night…

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