(Closed) My ex went to Vegas and married a woman he has known for 3 months. Why do I care

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Because you “wasted” 5 years of your life with someone totally opposed to marriage and then ex runs off and marries woman he barely knows. Just because it bugs you doesn’t mean you have feeling for the ex. It’s just the irony of it that is mentally maddening.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Yeah, it makes sense that you’re pissed.

I was with an ex for 4 years, and I was sooo pissed when he got engaged after 8 months. I remember thinking

“What does that bitch have that I didn’t?! (She probably kicks dogs or something)

Conversely, I know that FI’s ex wife was PISSED about me. Our wedding site (which is in progress..) was posted on FMIL’s wall by me, asking her opinion about something..and all of a sudden there was sooo many hits from the country she lives in. Funny how she’s still friends with Future Mother-In-Law on Facebook, and she’s the only person Fiance and I know from that country. Literally like 15 times a day. 

Post # 7
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3691 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Perhaps he changed his mind about marriage because he actually realized he lost something when you left?

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Let yourself be angry for a day and then let it go.  Does it stink that he wasted several years of your life?  Yep!  Do you want him back? Nope!  Are you happy now?  Yep!  If his marriage is a failure, it’s expected and you can shrug it off.  And if it lasts, then be glad he’s found the right person and that you did too.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I don’t know we all human and sometimes things just pissed us off even if you have no feelings for him anymore, feelings aren’t always rational. Although if it makes you feel better there is probably a really good chance that there is an annulment or divorce right around the cornor!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

haha too much feels in there sorry lol

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2010

I had a couple exes turn around and get married soon after we broke up. At the time it kind of stung, but things happen for a reason and I am glad I am married to who I am, and not them! I am also glad they are happy. Sometimes, well, you just know, and I think they were never right with me the way they felt right with their new partner. Good for them all and I wish them the best.

But, I get it. Do not look at those years as wasted though. They let you be right where you are right now!

 

Post # 13
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561 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Oh yeah, you do have a right to be pissed, but do it and let it go. It’s a shame that you wasted so much time, but in the end you won. So like another poster has already said – be mad for one day and then forget it. You have more important things to think about.

Post # 14
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9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Because it feels like someone else is reaping the benefit of all the work you put in. At least that is how I felt.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@the_future_mrs:  

“What does that bitch have that I didn’t?! (She probably kicks dogs or something)”

 

thank you for making me spit out my milk i was drinking hahahhaa

 

Post # 16
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894 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I was devestated when my ex got engaged to a girl he was dating for only 6 months. He was engaged before me and I was just so hurt that he was “happy” before me. At the time I had been with my Fiance for almost 5 years and my ex was horrible to me so I felt like I should have been the one to be “happy” first. Once I accepted the fact that being engaged first or married first didn’t equal better or happier I got over it but, it was a very hard pill to swallow at first so I totally understand.

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