Post # 1
My old boyfriend from highschool/early college, just got engaged today. I haven’t talked to him for over a year, and we haven’t been together for five years now, but it feels weird. I am not sad, but it’s a strange feeling knowing he’s moving on with his life. He’s older than me anyhow. He was a big part of my life in my teens but I’ve moved on. So why is this such startling news to me?
Has anyone else had this feeling?
Post # 3
I haven’t personally (because I don’t have an ex’s) but many people on wedding bee have said exactly what you have. That they haven’t seen them in a really long time, have no feelings for them and yet, it feels weird.
I think it is normal to feel odd when you find out someone that was a part of your life now has one completely of their own. Sometimes we sort of forget/don’t think about the fact that everyone’s life is moving on all around us even when it doesn’t connect with us in anyway.
I think these feelings will pass quickly, don’t let them bother you. 🙂
Post # 4
@Everdeen: It’s true, it’s as if I expected his life to stop moving once I left it, but really it’s just gone on wiithout me. I’m happy for him
Post # 5
@adnama: It’s a bit like the weird mind boggledness (yes, that’s totally a word :P) that happens when you think about everyone in all the cars you’ve ever passed in your life and how they all have phone calls and relationships and mothers and parties etc etc all of which exists without you. Sometimes it’s easier to think of my life like the movie the Truman Show, where everyone is just an actor in my life.
Especially if he was either not a nice boyfriend or a very special just not-the-one boyfriend then it can feel weird. If he was really special then it’s hard to think of him moving on and being special to someone else and if he was terrible than it doesn’t seem right that he should be happy.
Either way I think it will go away shortly.