Post # 1
Such bullshit. And they didn’t even call me to tell me to come over earlier so we could all eat together. My mom called me right after they finished eating asking me when I was coming over. I was 20 minutes away and then she casually threw in, “Oh, we already ate. I’m not feeling well and your dad is sleepy from work.” Like, thanks. My dad works overnights so I’m sure that was the case with him, but my mom I think was just trying to separate my sister and I (which means me from the rest of my family) since my sister doesn’t want to see me. She doesn’t want to see me because besides the fact that for the past two years she’s been involved in cocaine with an abusive druggie boyfriend, now she’s pregnant (and is trying to hide it from everyone besides my mom). So I got home, had a teeny bit of turkey and potatoes and booked it in about 15 minutes. I was so pissed. And my mom wanted me to just hang out with her and watch tv like nothing was wrong at all. I don’t think so.
Post # 3
I’m so sorry. Was your husband with you?
I would be upset too and I think you did good by leaving. Just enjoy the rest of your night !
Post # 4
No, he is working today. We’re going over to his parents’ house for dinner though. At least I have one normal Thanksgiving dinner to go to. I’m just upset with my family’s actions. I shouldn’t have even gone over (or should have just turned around when she told me they all already ate). Something like this always happens when I go visit my family but I just keep going back with the hope that this time might be different. I always end up crying on the car ride back home. I really need to learn my lesson and just cut them off or not expect so much or … I don’t even know.
Post # 5
I’m sorry you had to deal with that. Hope the time with your husband’s family is good!
Post # 6
Does your mom know you feel this way or maybe they are just very very easy-going?
You can always get drunk ! I wanna get drunk lol ! I hope you have a fantastic dinner with your hubby.
Yay to 9/11 brides ! Yes, I know mine says sept 4, I was too lazy to change it, lol
Post # 7
I’m guessing my mom knows I’m upset because I left pretty fast and she was all, “Why are you in such a hurry?” Gee, I don’t know. I’m just really bad with confrontations. And if I confronted my mom I’m sure she would cry which would make me cry and we’re just not a let’s cry together type family. Plus, my mom would likely just defend herself saying my sister needs more attention because of how she is. It’s one thing to deal with my mom’s actions, but I really don’t want to hear her defend them and my sister. It would be like the official confirmation from her that she likes my sister more than me.
Post # 8
I think if that had happened to me I would have suddenly remembered something I had to do…. or just said “Oh in that case, I’ll take the opportunity to stay home and read on the couch” or something. That would have infuriated me to no end!
My hubby’s response to reading that was “What!? She’s punishing the good daughter and rewarding the bad one? SHEESH!” and I couldn’t agree more with him on that.
Post # 9
That is awful. I know how it is going into a situation thinking it’ll be better but it doesn’t. It’s always the same. It’s hard to break the cycle because you are always hoping. Maybe call your mother later and say you didn’t appreciate being left out of a family dinner and would like to be kept in the loop if there is a change of plans. Then hang up the phone before she has a chance to defend herself. You are defending yourself right now and putting your foot down, it hurt your feelings and it happens a lot, something’s gotta change!
I hope you have a nice dinner tonight to make up for it =)
Post # 10
@passionfruit23: Thats awful! I hope you have a great night with your hubby and other family though!!! AS hard as it is you just need to push this afternoon behind you and enjoy the evening.
Post # 11
Wow! I can’t believe this. I’m sorry. I hope you find a way to have a good night despite your family drama.
Post # 12
Oh Passionfruit, I really feel for you. So many holidays at my house have ended up in a similar fashion. My sister struggled with addiction and an abusive partner for many years, and it ruined many holidays for our family. If you need to vent, feel free to PM me. I hope you enjoy your dinner with your husband’s family – you deserve it!!!