(Closed) My family driving me insane!!

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Member
235 posts
Helper bee

One word, elope!

Only kidding… Are they paying for the whole wedding? Tell them that you appreciate their input but this is YOUR wedding, not theirs. And why does your Aunt have to join this meeting, seriously?

My wedding is 3 months away and I have been dealing with my Mom wanting to invite everyone she knows, I wish you patience and luck! First things first, give each set of parents a number of people they can invite other than your close family and friends. I didn’t do that and I wish I had.

My best advice is to make sure you stop and smell the flowers through the whole planning process, you’re going to have ups and downs. 🙂

Post # 4
Member
1778 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Well, first off who is paying for this?

If you and your fiance are paying, tough luck for your parents they get no say whatsoever and should be grateful if you allow them a few invites.

If your parents are paying then it gets a little bit trickier.  Do not under any circumstances let the “Well I am paying for this!” guilt trip you. It is YOUR day.  That does not mean you should act like a brat about it.  But calmly explain that you have certain things you really want to have or to have happen.  And you could do what I did and go to a bunch of different wedding etiquette sites and look up the part where even if the family is paying the bride and groom still make all the decisions.  When my mom saw that, she did relent a bit.  She still wanted to be involved, but when she saw how happy my decisions were making me, she was all on board.  I think if your parents see the shine in your eyes, you will be golden.

If worst comes to absolute worst, tell your parents you really appreciate their gift offering, but you really want to have the wedding YOU want since it is your only one in your life.  Then have a beautiful wedding that you and your fiance can afford.  And who knows maybe your parents and his parents will still offer something!

 

Lastly, try not to stress out.  It is your day, you will be beautiful.  Just remember how much you love your fiance and in the end it will all work out.  Good Luck!

Post # 5
Member
1778 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Oh and I am my parents *ONLY* child, so I know what you mean about it being the first wedding in the family.

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