(Closed) My Family Found My Facebook Page…

posted 8 years ago in Family
  • poll: Should I Include My Family (who I haven't seen in years)?
    Sure, why not they're family : (7 votes)
    9 %
    No, don't feel obligated just because they're family : (58 votes)
    75 %
    Say the heck with it all and elope : (0 votes)
    Don't ever bring it up and be aloof if they do : (11 votes)
    14 %
    Tell them FI family is paying and you don't have a say with the guest list : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    523 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    You can make a limited profile list where people on the list can only see certain things about you. You can allow as much or as little as you want. I find this is a good option for distant relatives. 🙂 And if you don’t want them at the wedding, don’t invite them.

    Post # 4
    Bee
    1048 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall

    I too was going to suggest the limited profile list. Generally I have those on my ‘limited’ list set so that they can’t see my status, links I post, or pictures. basically to them it looks like i pretty much don’t come on to facebook very much.

    Post # 5
    Member
    1260 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I had a distant aunt who found me on Facebook and I foolishly accepted her friend request. Now I wish I hadn’t. She has been giving me unsolicited wedding advice left, right and center, and criticized my choice not to be married in a church. Don’t friend your cousins. If they don’t talk to you now, then why start on Facebook? Don’t feel obligated to invite any of them to the wedding.

    Post # 6
    Member
    937 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I am in a similar situation. There was a bit of a “falling out” between the adults, and I haven’t seen my cousins in 15 years. I just became “friends” with my one cousin on Facebook. We made polite small talk via email, and she clearly knows I am engaged but I have made no mention of wedding details to her, because I don’t intend to invite her or her parents. We haven’t been a part of each other’s lives for so long, I just don’t see the need to invite her.

    I wouldn’t invite them– especially since they were rude enough to not even RSVP to your sister’s wedding.

    Invite the people who are actually a part of your life! Why waste money sending invites to 30 extra rude guests you really don’t want there?

    Post # 7
    Member
    3162 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Don’t invite them. 30 extra people is ridiculous especially since you don’t have a relationship with them. I’ve said it once and I’ll say it again – Facebook is the root of all eveil when it comes to weddings. Oh, and don’t talk about your wedding all up on Facebook either.

    Post # 8
    Member
    2767 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    Limited Profile!

    Post # 9
    Member
    179 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I wouldnt invite them. Fiance and I have tons of “family” members we arent inviting. (including my parents and sister) We dont feel like we should be obligated to invite people who dont know us as a couple.

    Post # 10
    Member
    196 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Accept her friend request, but don’t invite them.  I don’t think you should invite anyone that would make you feel uncomfortable.  I’m inviting several Uncles and Aunts and Cousins, but not inviting one cousin who is psycho and I’ve already told my family that I am willing to go to the map about this one.  Just make sure if you make a declaration that you stick to it.

    Good luck!

    Post # 11
    Member
    372 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’m not sure about the friend request but I don’t think you need to invite them.  I  have some  cousins that I don’t know, and they don’t know me – I’m inviting their mother but not them.

    Post # 12
    Member
    1110 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2009

    I agree with making some post private. I am doing this because I have a co-worker as a friend and I am not planning on telling anyone at work about the wedding.

    Post # 13
    Member
    1148 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I’d accept her friend request on a limited profile. It could be that she no longer wants this rift in the family and wants to get to know you. Don’t invite her, because it’s not fair to have to suddenly add on 30 more people, but at least you can start getting to know each other if that’s what she wants. If she’s only doing it to get an invite or to be mean/spy on you, etc then you can unfriend her easily.

    Post # 14
    Member
    400 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    Don’t feel bad. Ignore the request and don’t invite her.

    Post # 15
    Member
    3979 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    I had this same cousin problem… it’s just too many to invite! I wouldn’t add her to my profile at all. Sigh… people come from all over expecting an invite! I feel your pain, but don’t feel bad. If you don’t have regular contact with her (or any of them) they shouldn’t be there on your wedding day!

    However… do you think she’s reaching out? Or do you think she’s just trying to get an invite to the wedding??

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