(Closed) My family hasn't planned at all

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Meh.  A month is a long time.  I don’t usually book hotels for a wedding until maybe a week or 2 in advanced.  The only time it gets done earlier is if a discounted rate is going to go away.

As far as dress shopping, they still have tons of time.  So don’t freak out yet!  Maybe you can offer to go with your mom and sister.  Set up a nice girls’ day out.  And maybe do the same for your brother.  I would talk to him directly and not go through your mom.  My little brothers were like that for a loooong time.  They HATED dressing nicely and it was a big fight to get them to wear something besides a t-shirt and tennis shoes.  But if you talk to him one-on-one and explain how much it would mean to you if he dressed up a bit, he might listen.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I feel your pain.  My sister’s in the wedding party and hasn’t gotten her dress yet (I told them to pick their own in turquoise around a certain length and gave them a bunch of options that I’d found with my own research if they were stuck on ideas).  My mom’s the same way.  

Do you think you can go through your dad about your brother’s shirt?  Or maybe offer to buy it yourself (just ask for his size), or ask her to bring one for him just for the pictures?  I like the idea of a girl’s shopping trip with your mom and sister, but it sounds like they may be far away.  Can you appeal to your sister and promise to return the favor for her, or is she too young to understand/help?

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

If they pulled it together for the other wedding, they’ll pull it together for yours. Just don’t stress it because you have more important things to worry about.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

My family is like this too, then they are usually late to the whatever event. It causes so much stress! Is there any way you can shoppong with them and assign them something to wear?

Post # 8
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963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Try not to stress. Yes it sucks, but this is who they are and nothing, not even your wedding, is going to change them.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I feel your pain. My mom passed away, and I never knew my father. I have 2 brothers, both in the wedding party and my brothers girlfriend of 7 years is a bridesmaid. My brotherand hours girlfriend live with me, and I can’t get them to order the bridesmaids dress. I’ve been hearing next week for 2 months now. My wedding is November 4th, and bridesmaids dresses that were ordered last Friday are not due in until Oct 27th. So it’s looking like I will just be down a bridesmaid. but to be honest, I’m kinda peeved about it. It’s not Like they pay a fortune in rent. It seems to me I bend over backwards cooking and cleaning, only charge them $200 a month rent, and my wedding is last on their list. Oh well, I guess I’ll have one less bridesmaid.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Try not to stress. If this is what they’re usually like, then it’ll probably turn out fine.

What crazy feels significantly more comfy in a polo over buttondown though?  My SO wears a button down most days, even casually. It’s fabric, that’s all.

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