(Closed) My Family have no interest in my wedding and its hurting me so bad.

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 2
2459 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

In all honesty, no one will be as excited about your wedding as you are.  I don’t think this should necessarily be interpreted as them being bitter and unhappy, just that it’s much more important to you than it is to them, which is understandable.  Have the wedding you want and be happy because you’re marrying the man of your dreams.

Post # 3
1099 posts
Bumble bee

I’m sorry you’re going through this. Congratulations on your upcoming wedding!

I have a feeling that there’s something more going on, maybe related to the fight. I think you should sit down and talk with your sisters and patch things up. We get a lot of brides here who complain that their friends aren’t super excited, and the above post applies to that situation, but it’s odd that you needed to beg family members to be your bridesmaid. I really think you should talk to them and see what’s going on.

But yes, no one will be as interested as you. My mother does not care at all about my wedding. At first it hurt a bit. Now I realise that her reluctance has nothing to do with me, and everything to do with her own issues regarding marriage. Don’t take it personally.

“I never get a call from them looking to see if i am ok” –> do you ever call them? I know it’s hard when you’re shy and suffer from depression, but it’s just something you need to do to maintain relationships.

I’m sure eloping in Italy will be wonderful and romantic! Enjoy 🙂

Post # 4
470 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I’m in a bit of the same situation. My family doesnt love me and I am just a burden on them. People don’t understand when I tell them because they can’t comprehend how that’s possible. BUt my dad has told me that he had children just because he felt like htat was what he was supposed to do and he wouldn’t do it again if he could go back.

My mom abandonned me compeltely and my dad, sister and grandmother were all I had even though they treated me like a burden. Over the recent Jewish holidays they were so horrible to me that my fiance and I were just in shock and now two months out from our wedding have no idea what to do. I don’t want to be around these people on such a special day of my life, or do any of the things wedding wise that I conceded to them. It’s too late for us to elope like you did but we are trying to actually see if we can make something like that work.

Honestly if your family is anything like mine then you are smart to plan to elope for the begining and make it just about the two of you. I wish I could go back and do that.

I have no one now to go with me to my final dress fitting or help me with anything and im crumbling. So if you are anywhere in the Toronto area we could always help each other 😛

Good luck with the wedding it’s going to be amazing and romantic in Italy.

Post # 5
861 posts
Busy bee

You are starting your own life and will build your own family. The support and life encouragement you need is right there with you already standing beside you.  

Personally I like the elopement idea better. I want to do it. I just want it to be between fi and I. Because when it comes down to it that’s who it is between. I don’t need a bunch of people to watch us, I don’t need a big party to celebrate. I want a very intimate ceremony where we commit our love to each other. 

You don’t always get the family you want or wish you had. But you are young and you now get to build your family yourself. 

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