Post # 1
On Saturday after many years together, my then bf proposed. We were pretty excited and told our families. My family lives out of province so I txt, e-mailed and even tried calling – no answer. The next day I still hear nothing. So I txt my sister something not of importance and she was able to answer me right back. My mother even sent me a whole bunch of junk forwards – none mentioning my engagement. Granted I am not extremely close with my family, but I do talk with them a few times during the month. I am only really estranged from my mother but still talk to her if need be. My fiance is very upset but we knew my family would pull this. He thinks I should write them an e-mail but I said that they would want a reaction out of me to know that they ”won”. My fiance and I have predetermined that I won’t be inviting my family to our wedding. It just blows my mind because my cousins overseas know about my engagement and I’ve never spoken to them before in my life! I just don’t know what to do anymore… What would you do? My family is pretty much pretending or ignoring the fact that I am engaged!
Post # 3
I wish I could snap my fingers and deliver some family members who could type ONE word to support you….
since I cannot, this will have to suffice.
Don’t let them get you down….if they want to ignore the very good news, that’s on them.
Post # 4
Maybe they don’t like him
Post # 5
@Tiffani675: at least you knew to expect this, I guess. Sucks but I guess some families are like this 🙁
At least you don’t have to deal w. drama at the wedding if they’re not invited.
CONGRATULATIONS!!!! Don’t let them bring you down.
Post # 6
I’m so sorry to hear you are going through this. It’s not easy when you have such wonderful news to share. I hope you have some good friends close by who can help celebrate such an important announcement! Congratulations!
Post # 7
The only thing I can think of is if it was predetermined they won’t be invited, I guess that might be the reason they ignored it. Families can suck sometimes :(. Congrats from the bees though!!
Post # 8
@Tiffani675: maybe they’re pissed that you texted and emailed them the news before trying to call.
Post # 9
Maybe they’re upset that they heard the news by text. That is kind of cold, to not even bother to call them with the news (I know you said you eventually called, but that’s not the same as if your first contact is to call them).
Post # 10
This is what happened to me, with his family as the ignorers. It was very hurtful as I had been his gf for 3 years and living together for the last 2 years, so where did they think this was going?! I felt included in his family up until we got engaged, then it was like every disapproval just came out of the woodwork! Screw them! They are his past, but I’m his future!