My family is being ridiculous

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 46
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106 posts
Blushing bee

Child free weddings are THE BEST. It sucked when I was younger, because I couldn’t come to some relatives weddings (even when I was 16, strictly no under 18’s), but I wish all weddings were child free!

I don’t have kids, but every damn wedding I go to I end up wrangling random children that are knocking champagne over or destroying stuff whilst their parents are drinking and ‘having fun’. Nope, don’t expect others to babysit whilst you’re drunk, get a sitter!

Post # 46
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266 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

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cypresstree85 :  Kind of have to agree. While sensitivity should be considered on both sides, I’ve never quite understood why people with children seem to think they should always get priority. Even when it comes to someone else’s event. Adult only events are not a new concept. No one is obligated to attend. I suppose it’s 30+ years of catering to others who don’t reciprocate, but when it comes to a major life event, I’m not going to let one demographic rule my decisions. There are ways to handle it tactfully, without having to cater to everyone. 

 

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averagegirl :  I somehow doubt these are the only two children in the family, just the ones who are creating issues. Making exceptions for a few WILL create resentment and hurt feelings for others, which is why it’s a difficult issue. 

Post # 48
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323 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2018

I say stand your ground.  My second wedding was child free except for the wedding party kids plus my husband’s nephew.  I hired 2 baby sitters to take care of them, and they had their own kids booth in the corner with crayons and fun stuff.  It was great.

 

My third wedding (I was widowed, not divorced twice) I had only my daughter and her best friend (they were 9) there.  Her best friend is also the daughter of one of my best friends and they’re both very well behaved.  My sister was going to come and bring her VERY poorly behaved 5yo and 2 yo…but the 2yo got sick and they couldn’t make the drive.  She wasn’t coming for me anyway, we’re not close, and I was only including the kids for my mother.  But EVEN my MOTHER said later “I was so glad the kids weren’t there ruining everything with their behavior.”  

 

I know not all kids are poorly behaved–but stick with what YOU want for YOUR wedding.

Post # 49
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Newbee

I also like an adult-only wedding, but with the exception of family members. I agree with others that they can opt forbabysitters or they can get a room near the place so they can put them let them sleep early.

Post # 50
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2019

My opion is if you choose to have a strict no children policy you have to accept that the people who have kids no matter how close they are etc may very well choose to skip out on the wedding and you have to just be ok with that. Not everyone is ok leaving their child alone and not everyone has access to a babysitter. 

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