(Closed) My family is broke!

posted 8 years ago in African-American
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

I don’t think it’s a black thing, my parents didn’t save up or pay for my wedding either.  We paid for it all ourselves.

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

that’s ok.. my parents didn’t save for me either.. and im white/puerto rican. my fiance is paying for most of it.. he is black and his sister got some help from his parents but i don’t know the full details. plus i really don’t think it has much to do about race. everyone’s situation and lifestyle is different. 🙂

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Its def not a black thing im sure a lot of people are in the same situation : /

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

lol… ethnicity has nothing to do w/ it! I mean, it may be some peoples’ tradition, but certainly not my family’s (I’m caucasian & 23 & in school).

I have a single mom and his family has 3 kids in college/med school. So, yeah, our small wedding is being paid for by us. Thats just how it is, but other than not being able to have a grand wedding… at least we get to pick out what we want. 🙂

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Not a black thing. I’m black and my dad is contributing a few thousand while my mom and stepdad are contributing $500. My dad saves a lot in general so he was able to give a financial assist.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree, its not a black thing. My Fiance is AA and his parents (upper middle class) paid for both of his sisters’ weddings. I think it is more a class/economic thing. Upper middle class families usually have disposal income for these kinds of things. It also just depends on what has always been done in your family or social circle. In your family, it may just not be tradition. I’m sure that’s tough! What about your FI’s family – would they be willing to pitch in?

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

Not a black thing. I know plenty of people(black) who had their parents give money for their wedding. Granted, they didn’t save it up, but they gave what they could.

My parents didn’t save for my wedding(whenever that IS,LOL) but if they had and I hadn’t paid my student loans off already, I’d use it for that rather than for my future wedding. If my mom offered now though, I’d just tell her to keep it since I have the means and if I didn’t I’d just get what I could afford.

 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

its definately not a black thing – like daniellemybelle says – its more an economic/social class type of thing. my parents paid for my sister’s full wedding, and are paying the majority of mine (they would have paid more but i wont let them since both myself and FH have good paying jobs and are a bit older) and thats the standard of pretty much everyone i know.

in our family its tradition that the bride’s family pays – but we are old south though. nowadays, especially if the couple is older or if there are unique circumstances, the couple pays part if not all of their weddings.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Have you asked?

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Not a black thing at all.  My parents didn’t save anything for mine or my sister’s weddings.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee

not an ethnic issue, I am asian, my Fiance is white and we are paying for it ourselves. We are older and our parents MAY choose to give us some money for us as wedding gift, but we are not asking. I was in my 20’s when I got married the first time, my parents may have a few thousand that they could have contributed I am sure, but didn’t offer and I didn’t ask, so I didn’t have a wedding the first time. 

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