Post # 1
Ok so here’s the rundown: We’re having a very small destinatin wedding, basically only my mom and sister are coming with us. It’s going to be at Couples Negril. Well, I’ve been telling my mom to book their trip at Couples Swept away — it’s a sister resort of ours, and it’s only about 10 minutes away. Obviously, I don’t want them at my resort, because we want this to be our honeymoon. Well, she waited too long to book, and now they’re full at CSA. Her solution is to stay at CSA for 7 nights and stay the last 3 at my resort when CSA is booked. I know it’s only three days, but I’m so upset! Fi and I don’t have a lot of money (we’re students right now) and this will be our first big vacation together. I can’t imagine how awkward it’s going to be having them there. It’s somewhat of a small resort, and so I feel like we’ll be running into each other all the time. Dinner, evenings… what if our rooms are near each other??? It’s going to be super hard to get in the mood. UGHHHHH!!! What should I do?!
Post # 3
@QueenOfSerendip: It’s only for three days, and at the end of the vacation, right? That’s not that big of a deal. It’ll be fine.
Post # 4
@QueenOfSerendip: I went to a destination wedding last year and all 30 of us stayed at the same resort as the Bride and Groom. It was honestly a great time for all of us – including the bride and groom. When they wanted to get away or eat at a different restaurant they did. We only were there with them for 5 days and they spent the remaining 5 days alone. Since you only will have them there for 3 days I think it will be fine! Try not to stress it too much .. I’m sure they’ll respect that it’s your honeymoon.
Post # 5
It only has to be awkward if you make it awkward. I’m sure they realize this is your honeymoon and won’t be scheduling joint dinners and following you around or anything like that. You’ll survive. 🙂 Just enjoy the lovely time with your new husband!
Post # 6
I wouldn’t make a big deal over this at all. Just because your mother and sister are staying in the same resort doesnt’ mean they’re staying in the same room. You can plan to spend as much time with them as you want— which includes planning to spend no time with them at all, and just bumping into them in the elevator.
Post # 7
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
And if they get too nosey I would tell them that we were going back to our room for some more private time and hope they get the idea. Maybe those last three days you will be glad to have some dinner company, maybe you won’t. I would definitely make sure that mom knows those three days are still your honeymoon and you don’t plan to spend them with anybody but your new husband and you would greatly appreciate it if she understands and tries to stay out of your way.
Post # 8
Unfortunately, since you invited them to come all this way, I think you are sort of stuck. To avoid this happening to us, Fiance and I are switching resorts ourselves after the wedding to make sure that no one from our wedding group will be on our honeymoon. Is it a possibility for you to change resorts if you (understandably!) don’t want to spend any part of your honeymoon with your mom?
Post # 9
It’s only 3 days, and it’s a big resort. You guys don’t have to hang out. You may not even see them. Please don’t let 3 days ruin your wedding/honeymoon.
Post # 10
OK update: She just booked the first four days (including our wedding night) at our resort. Then the last three days she moves to another. It seems like most of you think it’s not a big deal — maybe I am overreacting. I honestly feel lke I want to cry right now. My mother has a habit of taking over things that should be exclusive between Fi and I, such as dates, and I just feel this is an extension of that. I’ll try to just relax and remember that it’s still my wedding. 🙂 Thanks girls!
Post # 11
I’m sure it will be fine – it’s only 3 days, it could be way worse! Tell them straight up you do not want to see them whatsoever. Then, do whatever you can to avoid them at all costs haha. Unfortunately, this is pretty typical when honeymooning at the same resort as your Destination Wedding.
Just saw your update – why don’t you and Fiance move to a different resort then?
Post # 12
This is kind of the risk you run with a Destination Wedding.
She knows it’s your honeymoon….I’m sure she expects you will be off with your new hubby. And those resorts are pretty big. Don’t worry.
Post # 13
@QueenOfSerendip: Well that’s better then you thought before! At least you will get some privacy after the wedding 🙂
Post # 14
I’m so sorry you are going through this but 3 days won’t be so bad. The resorts are big enough you may not see each other. you will absolutely love Couples!
Post # 15
Talk to her about how you feel. Maybe you can talk about where you plan to be those days and ask if she can avoid it.
Post # 16
Thank you everybody! I’ve tried to just breathe and realize that it’s going to be ok… I’m feeling a little better. I would switch resorts but our wedding is at this one, so I can’t. But I really appreciate you guys… I love my Weddingbee girls! 🙂