(Closed) My family is pushing for a wedding party that I don't want!

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
5242 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Lily_of_the_valley:  Just let them know that your wedding is small and you want just one witness on each side. If you have half the guests in the bridal party standing up with you then you will have no guests in the audience watching the wedding!! I find it super annoying when people try and push other people (family members) into the wedding saying people will “get mad” I think they just say that so you feel obligated to do it.

Post # 4
11233 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Wow, that is way too many people. And there is no rule that anyone HAS to be in the wedding party–they’re being ridiculous.

Post # 5
2359 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You need to stand your ground and say no!   They will get over it

Post # 6
1181 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Just tell them you guys only want 2 attendants.

Post # 7
1177 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Tell them they need to back off and the subject is not up for discussion. There’s no rule saying your Future Sister-In-Law has to be a bridesmaid, especially if you have no real relationship with her.

Is it a full moon? It seems like a lot of people are getting bullied by their families today.

Post # 8
3039 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013


You’re having a small wedding, if you include all those people that are 20-30% of everyone attending! That feels very unbalanced.


Our wedding is similar to yours, Destination Wedding and 30-40 guests and we’ll have two bridesmaids and one best man. If anyone would push me to include more, I would just say that due to the size of the wedding we feel like this is the largest our wedding party could possibly be. However, family members are more than welcome to help in other ways (readings for example).


Post # 9
4284 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Have a Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man and say that’s it.

Post # 10
7211 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

If having only your one and only sister in the wedding party causes a “huge rift” in the family, your mom didn’t do her job. Shoot. 

Post # 13
2556 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Tell them to back off – it’s your big day & you can choose to include how ever many in your bridal party you wish.

Post # 14
388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I feel for you. You just have to put your foot down. If you um and ahh about it they will continue to try and persuade you, so be firm. It is YOUR wedding and seems a little silly for half of the guests to be in it! They will get over it.

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