Post # 1
We aren’t planning a huge wedding- maybe 60 people (mostly my family). We really only care that my two sisters and their families plus my parents and his parents attend the ceremony (plus a few of our BFs). We live in Southern California, my oldest sister and her family live in South Africa, my middle sister and her family live in Chile, our parents and some closest friends live in South Carolina (which is where we are from). My other family members (aunts, uncles, cousins) live all over the US.
I would like to get married here for planning purposes and for the weather- however it is so much more expensive for everyone to fly and stay here and the venues are so expensive. We were thinking something like Miami (FI’s suggestion)- but we are getting married in July and it’s SO hot and humid there!
I really want to be accommodating- even though no one has complained about any of our suggestions and I know they would be okay with whatever we pick.
Also, how do I even pick a venue if I don’t know who would even be able to come? I know our immediate families will come- but what about aunts/uncles. Who knows if they will want to shell out the money to go to wherever we pick?
Any suggestions or thoughts?
Thanks bees! 🙂
Post # 3
We actually had the same problem, so we picked a venue halfway inbetween both. A ton of people called me crazy but it limited the number of people that were able to come, we got the perfect venue at a much lower price than in the city, and we will be glad to “get away from it all” on the big day.
Maybe do something like this?
Post # 4
I would get married where you are, or somewhere that is like an hour or so away if that makes it cheaper. Its way way way easier to plan and it sounds like people are going to have to travel no matter what. Honestly a plane trip from Chile to NJ is pretty similar to a plane trip from Chile to California. Unless you have an area where people are heavily concentrated, pick something that is convienent for you. As someone who is planning a “destination” wedding (our hometown) I can guarentee you it would have been much easier to look at venues whenever I wanted vs having to fly/drive across the country or just trust someone else’s opinion.
Post # 5
@asscherlover: I agree with this. It’s definitely going to be easier to plan if it’s where you live. Let people come to you for the wedding, if they can.
Post # 6
We had the same problem so we choose a country that was roughly the same distance/expense of travel for everyone. I knew if we had it at home then the some of the must have guests wouldn’t make it because of the expense and time to travel where as the half way point was considerably cheaper for everyone. Things to also consider is expenses for guests once at the wedding location. It is ok to say that everyone can pick up a cheap airfare to a location (lets say Monarco) but the costs for food, transport, accommodation etc would be extremely high once in country.
Post # 7
My Fiance and I have the exact same problem so we figured that if a lot of flying needed to be done regardless we’d make it a destination wedding for everyone but ourselves. Plus, a lot of friends attending went to school in this town as well so hopefully it’ll double up as a reunion as well!
Post # 8
Generally, you get married where you live and everyone travels to where you are. Most people have no issues with travelling to a wedding since that is very customary.
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2013 - Ontario, Canada
Being in a similar situation myself where my family is in Sweden, SO’s family is in Canada, and we live in the UK we knew that wherever we got married people would need to travel. So we sat down and compared the pres and cons of all the options I.e. price, venues, logistics and most importantly – what we wanted out of the day, and we decided on Canada as it was where we would get most for our money, most attendees, and where we hope we can give everyone a most memorable experience. We have a lot if friends there and several with young kids whilst our friends in the UK are single or in couples but not yet have kids so naturally it would be easier to our UK friends to travel. Also, my guests from Sweden were all excited by the idea of getting to visit Canada. In regards to planning long distance it is a bit more challenging but with email, Skype etc it is not as hard as it may seem. Basically sit down and way up ypur options, speak to your family about their thoughts and make ypur decision accordingly. Hopefully this helps a bit and good luck!
Post # 10
Thank you all for your advise!! The hunt for the perfect location is on 🙂
Post # 11
@hhoughto: I have friends getting married in the carribean because she is from South America and he is from the US. They choose that place because everyone could get visas to visit. Remember it may be difficult to get a visa to the US from some countries.
Post # 12
I would say get married where you are living, definitely. Because you will need to make your appointments, and something far away might not be a very conceivable option. But it is where you decide to make it, and if something halfway works, then it works for you. But I say the closer, the better!
Post # 13
As long as you’re relatively close to a major airport, I agree: plan it where you live.
Post # 14
Thanks everyone! We decided to do it close to home 🙂 SO happy with the choice! I feel like I’m already done planning and I still have like 11 months, lol I’m sure that’s not true though!