My Family's issues are starting to overshadowing my wedding – Am I overreacting?

posted 5 months ago in Family
Post # 2
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Honey bee

soontobemrs52 :  

Not overreacting, but getting too emotionally engaged with them . Don’t waste  another moment on  the eloping fake wedding   cousin , just be distantly/pleasantly  polite when you have to .

Yes , if you can without huge drama, fire the aunt as photographer,  having her was always inviting disaster.   Do not talk to her any more about wedding planning , just your mum and bridesmaids . No need to be dramatic, just a firm , ‘yes all taken care of –  now , what’s happening with (cousin or whatever ).

I would go with the ‘be civil  and act like nothing is happening’option  and maybe nothing will.  

Post # 3
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Busy bee

soontobemrs52 :  She asked me to be a bridesmaid and I said no because I don’t believe in having a fake wedding

First of all, this sounds really rude.

What is your aunt trying to take over and stop your bridesmaids from planning? If you feel people are taking over the wedding planning then plan it yourself.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper

Yes I had family drama too and it’s so sad. It’s not how I imagined our wedding at all. 

Its a blot but you can do nothing about other people’s issues but as 

elderbee :  says you can stop feeding the fire. 

Just keep away from the drama. Don’t react.  Deal with the planning with your FI and anyone else who’s on your side. 

Its a pain in the ass that you’ve got it going on over your special day but honestly just stuff them. Do what you want to do. Keep away from the nonsense. Do what you want and let the chips fall where they may. Keep focused on the point of the wedding and the nice things you and your FI want. 

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