posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
3254 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@celestina:  First of all, my condolences go out to you. What an awful situation for you to be put in.

I think that you and your fiance need to decide what to do without worrying about his unsupportive family. In the long run, it’s what you as a couple want to do that is truly going to matter, not whether his family was being petty or not.

I think the idea of getting married in a small ceremony at home is really beautiful, and you could always have the wedding you originally planned in the future. My heart goes out to you.

Post # 4
1430 posts
Bumble bee

I am so sorry what a heartbreaking thing to go through:( Do what will bring you the most peace. If getting married in a private little ceremony first in front of your father will give you a memory you will always cherish then do so. Honestly, do not worry about your Future Mother-In-Law and family at this point. If they push you into not doing something that would regret after your father is gone you will always resent them. I don’t see the harm in this case to do a tiny ceremony at home and have the wedding later. I can’t imagine people not understanding that. I think that will make you happier on your “big” wedding day knowing your father already saw you marry vs. you just thinking the whole day that he never got to be there to see it.  Hugs.. hang in there.

Post # 5
163 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@celestina:  I am so sorry, my heart is breaking for you. I would absolutely have the smaller ceremony with your father. This means a lot to both of you, I’m sure. And you Future In-Laws can shut up, honestly. How horrible of them to be more concerned about guests that the bride and her father in such a difficult time.

Post # 6
902 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I am so sorry for what all youre going through ::hugs:: !!!

Honestly, if I were in your shoes, I wouldn’t care what ANYONE else thought on my decision to have a home ceremony to give my father peace at his passing.  Shame on your fiance’s family for being selfish and unsupportive!  How would they feel if they would be in this situation?

You already said yourself that you will lose no money by post poning so I would just do that!  Post pone and have a small home ceremony in honor of your father so that you can have that memory!!  

It’s alot better than regretting it and wishing you had for the rest of your life..

Post # 7
4371 posts
Honey bee

I am so sorry for what you’re going through. I think everyone would understand you having a small marriage ceremony at home, and then having the reception later. Your FIL’s will just have to get over themselves.

Post # 8
989 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I agree with you that it would be nice to have a full ceremony later but something small now. Don’t let the future in laws get to you. all you need to worry about if Fiance. If you get married and things turn around then your dad will be at the larger ceremony too. My teacher had a last minute turn around. If all else seems lost then ask your dad what he would have you carry to represent him at the larger ceremony. Perhaps he has a small token you can put on your bouquet to represent him there with you in spirit. I am so sorry you are going through this. My prayers are with you and I hope you can find a way to make this work for you

Post # 9
2335 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Get married ASAP with your dad, have a larger reception with family later on- once you are ready.  Absolutely, no question.

Post # 10
20 posts

My prayers and thoughts are with you in this difficult time.  I would do a small ceremony ASAP and you can have something else later on.  Sorry you have to deal with Fiance family.

Post # 11
2459 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I am so sorry you are goin through this ((Hugs)).

The only thing you will ever regret is your dad missing your big day, you will not regret inconveniencing your guests or pissing off your Fi’s fam.

Now get of WB and Organise a celebrant and a bunch of flowers, grab your outfits and head to your fathers bed. Get married asap. Then post pone the other wedding.

Post # 12
3307 posts
Sugar bee

I am so sorry. Don’t worry about anyone else. Your fiancé and you need to figure this out. *hugs*

Post # 13
805 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I know this sounds strange, but is it at all possible to have a small ceremony at your dads bedside while your guests wait for you at your reception? At least this way your dad will not miss your wedding. 

Post # 14
805 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Simpleandchic is spot on. 

Post # 15
63 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Let your father see you married. If it’s his one last wish, and you can do it, do it. I lost my mother to cancer before I got engaged, and now I’m planning my wedding, the only thing I want that I can’t have, is that she could be there with me. 

God bless you and your father, and I hope you manage to do what is best for you 

The topic ‘MY FATHER IS DYING & OUR WEDDING IS IN 4 DAYS! WHAT DO I DO?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors