(Closed) My Father passed away, I need help…

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@mizamandaparker:  I am so sorry to hear that.  I can’t imagine how you’re feeling.

I think it’s totally normal to feel pain and to express it on your day.  What if you walked down the aisle to “What a Wonderful World”.  I know it would be difficult, but it would be a great way to honor him.  Once you got through the walk, you’d have your Fiance waiting for you.  I think you’d be surprised how quickly his presence would comfort you and you would move on to the ceremony and recover. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee

@mizamandaparker:  I’m very sorry to hear that. I’m going through the same thing.

i decided not to have anyone walk down the aisle because no one can replace my dad’s place. However, I am putting a picture charm of him on the handle of my bouquet. Also I’m planning to walk down the aisle with Kenny G’s “sentimental”. My dad was the one who introduced me to Kenny G’s music and my love for jazz when I was little. 

In any case, your father should know that now his little princess will be in good hands ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

@mizamandaparker:  I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I can identify – my brother unexpectedly passed away 2 months before our wedding. It was very difficult, but I’m happy with how we chose to honour him: 

We placed a lantern with a candle for him on the signing table next to us at the ceremony, and in front of it we put what would have been his boutonniere. We also had our officiant mention a small line about those who could not be with us physically that day, and my aunt gave me a locket with Johnny’s picture in it to pin to my bouquet. And of course I mentioned him in my speech at the reception.

 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@mizamandaparker – my dad passed 18 months before my wedding and I had many many tears during planning. I honored him by having a cross he had given me wired to my bouquet, having a framed photo of he and my mother’s wedding, and had the DJ play one of his favorite dance songs – it was ver special and he would have loved it. I know your Dad will be with you on your special day ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m so sorry to hear this. Back in November, Fi’s Dad who was the only dad I have ever known, passed away. I was planning on having him walk me down the aisle as well, and now I’m walking alone. 

I know that I will be getting a bouquet charm with his photo in it, and I’ll also be cutting a small heart out of a black plaid shirt that he had and sewing it onto my dress somewhere.

I love the idea of playing one of his favorite songs too. Just remember that he is there with you, even if it’s not how you want. Hugs and prayers coming your way <3 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

@mizamandaparker:  Instead of holding your brothers arm you could each hold the side of a picture of your father wearing a signature hat or scarf? then place it in a chair for him to watch the ceremony

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m sorry to hear of your loss. I cannot imagine the emotions you must experiabout throughout this process. What if you still had your first dance to “What a Wonderful World” and you had different, important men in your life (brothers, cousins, uncles, granddad) take turns dancing with you during the song? I am sure that would be special to a lot of people ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My dad Also passed away 2 years ago so I know just how you feel. My dad was the best father anyone could have ever asked for and i still cry almost every day when i think of him. I’m also doing the picture on my bouquet and sewing his shirt into my dress. Also, I’ve asked the DJ to play a happy song that reminds me of my dad sometime during the reception. My mom is walking me down the aisle.

I want the things for my dad at my wedding to give people happy memories and not make it a cry fest. It’s hard though when youre hurting so bad

Research the song “What a wonderful world” I’ve heard a more upbeat version of it before that was still beautiful.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m optimistic you’ll find a way to honour him in the way that is right for you. I can relate. My dad passed away six months ago. “Ball of tears” pretty much sums it up…

Here’s my experience. I hope that sharing it helps you.

My dad was a very private guy, so he would want whatever symbol I chose to be just between him and me. That’s just the way he was. One thing that he and I always shared was music; we played guitar together since I was seven years old. When I was a kid he took me to a guitar concert at a local college. I met the guitarist and my dad bought me his CD. I’ll be walking down the aisle to a song on that CD. There won’t be an announcement about it at the ceremony. He and I will know, and that’s enough.

My choice is to honour him with something we shared in a way he and I would both be comfortable with. Those who knew us well will get it, those who don’t just hear a beautiful song. If you think about the relationship you had, I’m sure you’ll find something appropriate. He will be with you on your special day. Take care!

 

 

 

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