(Closed) My father was almost ARRESTED at my rehearsal, then told me to “rot in hell”

posted 10 years ago in Family
Post # 17
921 posts
Busy bee

My heart breaks for you that you had to deal with all of this from him. But you know what the good news is? You have a wonderful husband who loves you and stood by you through all of this. You are not alone. You know that none of that was your fault, but let me say it again. Nothing you did, said, or didn’t say had anything to do with why he acted that way at your rehersal or about your wedding. You seem like a strong and lovely woman who did not deserve that. No one does.

What would you think about a little face time with a counselor who can help you work through the conflicted emotions you’re having? i’m guessing that since you work at a crisis hotline, that the idea of getting help when you need it is not something foreign to you. If you’re open to it, talking with a professional about this could help you to get some closure on past issues as well as some stratigies for dealing with future events if they ever arise.

Rely on your husband and your family for support right now. And remember, your wedding was NOT about him. It was about the beautiful union between you and your husband. Try to celebrate that and remember all the good things about your wedding day. With the right work, that is eventually what you will think of about your wedding and those other things will fall to the wayside.

Post # 18
1023 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

That is just awful, but the silver lining of this story is that despite what your father did and how terrible it was, the important people in your lives rallied around you.


Post # 19
86 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2011


your dad is a piece of work!!

Post # 20
329 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I wouldnt feel too bad about those texts if I were u, not that two wrongs make a right but your dad did many many many wrongs that are just not acceptable. Good for you for finally letting him have it.

I’m sorry that it was such a messy start to your wedding but it sounds like ppl who really care about you stepped up so yay for that 🙂

Also your wedding pics are beautiful!

Post # 21
3165 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

w…t…f. i’m all eyeballs at this ish. so sorry you had to go through that, what a tool. he needs counselling. i’m glad you seem to have a good support system in the rest of your family though!

Post # 22
457 posts
Helper bee

I am so sorry for you having to go through that, I can relate, we had to call the cops on my Mother-In-Law at our Rehearsal Dinner as she almost attacked me and attacked her ex. It was a mess, and it was horrible, I was hysterical the entire night, She too spread terrible rumors and still thinks she did nothing and also said she was going to give us 5,000 but never did. I wouldn’t want it if she even did give it to us though.

All I can say is that this only makes you stronger, and your relationship and cherish the good memories and forget the bad ones and the people that did that to you.  Even though they are family that is no excuse for family to act in those ways and treat others that way, in my mind it makes it 10X worse when it’s family doing the horrible things, they aren’t supposed to be that horrible to their own blood.


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