Post # 1
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Newbee
Helpppppppppp!!!!!!!!!!! I am having a major dilemma, my FH Groomsman who is also his younger brother has been M.I.A since August 20124. Our wedding is in April 201, he hasn’t responded to any text messages or FB messages. We know for sure he is still alive because he keeps contact with his mother. I am assumming he is avoiding us becuase we are still friends with his daughters mother, which they broke up back in April 2014. The wedding is 5 months away and we dont even know if he is still part of it, because he wont reply to any messages. What should we do?????
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
ang3lina411: Is FI on good terms with his parents? I would suggest having him talk to them first and see if they can provide any insight.
Post # 3
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Newbee
MKWeddingBee: He spoke to his mother and expalined the situation and she said she will ask him but its been 2 weeks and still no response.
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
It seems to me that he doesn’t want to be in the wedding. I say ask someone else.
Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
At this point, I would say do nothing. He still has 5 months to rent or purchase a tux/suit/whatever. There really isn’t anythng he needs to do now, is there?
Post # 6
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Newbee
julies1949: The fitting isn’t until March, I’m worried that if I do nothing and he doesn’t show then what?
Post # 7
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Newbee
Bored6: Seems like that to me as well but my FI has hope….I’m losing my patience.
Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
ang3lina411: why are you losing patience? This is your FIs arena. His brother doesn’t even need to be fitted for Months so theres no reason for buying trouble. Let them sort this out for a few months.
Post # 9
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Newbee
Tinatiny1: so you don’t think 5 months is cutting short? How are they going to sort it out if he’s M.I.A????
Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
ang3lina411: One thing I learned a long time ago is that worrying is a total waste of time. It doesn’t accomplish anything.
If you hear from him and he rents the tux and shows up for the wedding, great.
If he doesn’t, you and your FI will be married with or without him.
Post # 11
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Newbee
julies1949: I’m sure you are right….but……if he doesnt? What will happen to my BM who is assigned to walk with him?
Post # 12
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Sugar bee
She can walk alone, it wont be the end of the world
You are so far out from the wedding that hes probably not wanting to deal with it. March is a while away and it isn’t likely even on his radar. Start worrying in late Feb
If you see him over Christmas just talk to him then. for now chill
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This reply was modified 2 years, 10 months ago by Boxerlover24.
Post # 13
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Newbee
You are seem like you’ve been there done it and survived. I appreciate all the feedback and I will definitely try to relax and hope for the best. Thank you.
Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
Boxerlover24: She will do just fine. She has been walking on her own since she was about 1 year of age.,
Bridesmaids can enter and leave on their own, ditto with groomsmen, or two bridesmaids can be with one groomsman.
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