(Closed) My FI and I don’t have an “our song” for our wedding :(

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

I feel your pain hun, SO and I have maybe 2 songs that are meaningful in our relationship after being together about 5 years… and i got the same reaction/crushing blow to “Lucky” by Jason Mraz even though it toootally speaks to our short/long distance relationship!  Argh!

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

We don;t have a song either.  No idea where we’re going to start!

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

We don’t have an “our song” either.  But for some reason the Old Crow Medicine Show song, “Wagon Wheel” seems to follow us, lol, we hear it everywhere.  Fiance even learned to play it on the guitar for me!  I guess it’s “our song” but not wedding appropriate, at all.  I think we’ll stick with classical music at our wedding.  Smile

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper

My Fiance and I didn’t have a song. We just picked one that we both liked that we thought would be nice at our wedding and that will be it ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

We didn’t have a song either (7 years together). I spent months listening to hundreds of tracks to find the perfect one. Anything I thought would work I’d send over to Darling Husband where he would pretty much hate them all. We ended up choosing a song that we had listened to a lot during our long engagement (it was on one of DH’s work playlists). It wasn’t “our song” before the wedding but it is now. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We are right there with you…

Choosing our wedding songs is stressing me out!

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Don’t feel bad.  Our song was the song playing in the car when he dropped me off after our semi-blind date.  The radio station was premiering it and he asked me to stay and hear it with since it was a favorite band of his. He then asked me for a second date. It was totally cute.  The song is “Through Glass” by Stonesour.  

We shared a literal first dance to it at my mom’s wedding.  It has its memories.  However, its not what I envision for our first dance as a married couple.  I’m a romantic indie sap and he’s a metalhead.  Nothing I genuinely love interests him and vice versa. I think we’re screwed. 

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Hah! We don’t even have any overlap between our tastes in non-wedding music, much less a “song”. He listens to classical music and songs by skinny white British dudes; I listen to musicals and nostalgic Cantopop. I’ve basically selected a song we can dance to if we want, but I’m not sure we’re going to have a first dance at all so it’s really a non-issue.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@cuddlz88:  Lifehouse is awesome we are using you & me, and it was kinda by chance… Fiance was listening to one of my CDs at work and came across 2 songs he liked a week or so after the wedding (the other was secondhand seranade – fall for you which up til a month ago we were going to use instead but I just didn’t like the starting lyrics so it put me off). We now play it all the time and so it is our song… I will add before that album he hadn’t heard a Lifehouse song before ๐Ÿ™‚ I just got lucky I love the song too I guess…

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

8 years together here and we don’t have a song either. When it came time to pick one Fiance said “I don’t care.” ๐Ÿ™

So I picked one and it reminds him of something funny and everytime he hears it he makes a joke about it and laughs. *sigh* I searched agin for a different song but none worked for me.

Maybe his laughter during our first dance will ease the nervousness. :/

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Three years together and no song that is ‘ours’. We are struggling to pick one for the wedding. It’s not that I dont hear things and think of him….I just dont equate any songs I’ve ever heard with our relationship, you know? I think this is more common of a problem than I ever thought!

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I had the same issue, we just picked a song that we both liked. We’ll also be entering with a song that is more meaningful, but can’t dance to it. Theory is that once we dance to our first dance song it will definetly become our song. 

The issue is that there is a lot less opportunity to have a song it seems. I think a generation ago there were a lot more opportunites to go dancing and people seemed more focused on the song. My mom was pretty perturbed neither I nor my sister had a song. I never paid attention to what was being played when we danced, and even if I did I don’t really understand why a song someone else picked would be meaningful. 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

This is probably the biggest, most frustrating obstacle of our wedding planning.  We do not have a song.  I am a hopeless romantic.  Fiance only likes classic rock.  There are a few classic rock love songs that I have suggest and he has “maybe”-d but, it just doesn’t feel right.  He won’t go for any of the mushy love songs that I think suit us.  I feel like one day we’ll be somewhere and a song will come on and we will just know.  But, four months away I am not sure that’ll ever happen in time. 

Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

We have this issue too. We listen to a lot of the same music but most of it is too heavy for a wedding. We ended up choosing an acoustic version of a new song from one of our favorite bands that we found on youtube.

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