(Closed) My FI and my family clash.

posted 7 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 5
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445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Sorry for the late comment.  My parents were very strict when it comes to me dating. I don’t seem to pick the one they like…but they would let me find out for myself (i.e. they don’t break us up).  My parents had reservations about Fiance (just as they do with every guys i dated or don’t date for that matter).  They didn’t like FI because of our religious differences but know that he makes me happy. I asked that Fiance get to know them and be around them so they would see how great he was.  Fiance helped them fixed things around the house and eventually won them over after many many attempts. As parents, they wanted to protect you..you and your Fiance needs to show them that you both will be able to take care of each other (fiancially and emotionally too).  You said your dad hurt his feelings? Well, your parents probably recented him for you moving out the way you did.  If I were you, I’d encouraged Fiance to bury the hatchet and hopefully your parents will follow his lead. 

Post # 7
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988 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Sometimes you just have to accept that people in your life wont connect. 

If they are talking negatively to you about each other, simply tell them it hurts and that you’d wish things coiulod be different for your sake.  Other than that, give it time and maybe things will get better.

 

Post # 8
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870 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I know what you are going threw. My dad has liked all of my sisters’ bf’s. Every. Last. One. Both of my sisters have only dated guys that smoke (cigarettes AND pot), drink, cuss non-stop, etc. My Fiance dosen’t drink or smoke and only cusses when he’s playing his video games. Both of my sisters have lived with their BF’s and my dad still likes them. He HATES my Fiance. No one knows why. I’m the middle child so it’s not like I’m his first baby or his baby-baby so that’s not his reasoning. I have to beg him to come with me any time my family wants to see me but when he is there the ignore him and if he’s not there they talk bad about him. BOTH of my sisters have slept with more guys than I have, my Fiance being the only one for me, and he talks to them all the time. He only talks to me when he wants something or to bother me about seeing the baby. I guess sometimes families just don’t know what they are missing.

Post # 9
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6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I have no helpful advice. I just wanted to say that my parents HATED my ex bf of 7 1/2 years, and that was actually a big reason I didn’t stay with him. I hated having to choose between him and my parents. Not saying that you should leave him, just saying that I get what you’re going through and it sucks. Good luck!

Post # 11
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870 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

@SweetRose2011: I just ignore them mainly. I don’t want to be stressed out about it so I don’t talk to them unless I have to. If they want to be a part of my life they have to accept my Fiance too. They just don’t understand what a great guy he is. My older sister hates him because she started yelling and cussing at me and he stood up for me. That’s it. My family doesn’t want to accept the fact that I have found someone to be with right away and they all have had MANY messed up relationships.

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