(Closed) My FI has lost his mind!

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
566 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I have only seen this once, where a newlywed couple bought a house with the husband’s brother. It is not something to be done lightly, and your fiance should consider that friendships change with time. A brother is a little more permanent 🙂

Anyway, when I heard about this couple I thought they were crazy. But it worked for them, and they were family. I’m totally on your side. Random guy (OK, so he’s the best friend, that doesn’t make it much less awkward) buying a house with you two? Crazy.

Post # 5
10366 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Renting? Maybe.

Buying a house you can’t afford and being dependent on roommates to make your mortgage payment? TERRIFYING

Post # 6
220 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We lived with my FI’s brother for a year. Well I was the last to move in, and at times felt like the least important part of the family…Besides it is pretty awkward to “do something” when someone else is behind the wall…Nevertheless we are getting kicked out of the house this week in order to allow some privacy to my fi’s brother with his gf…I wish we could have some privacy sometimes as well. By The Way my Fiance is paying for everything: rent, utilities, car, food…The good news though is that we are moving to a new house WITHOUT a tail with us.

Post # 7
13096 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

@crayfish: This would be my exact concern.  The having a roommate/renter thing wouldn’t bother me too much (not ideal but could certainly work) but using their rent to afford more house isn’t smart.  They move out and you still have to be able to afford the mortgage payment.

ETA: It is fine to put a tenent’s rent payment towards your mortgage so long as you can comfortably afford the whole mortgage when there is no rental income.

Post # 8
2321 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

This is a big no-no. You shouldn’t have to depend on someone else to make your bill payments. Please do not get a place if it’s unaffordable. Fiance and I are trying to get a place that we can utilise on ONE income, let alone have some 3rd party living with us. Nuh-unn! Totally unacceptable!

Post # 9
567 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

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Post # 10
3049 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

Um yea, my Fiance suggested this too when his buddy was about to move into town. He was like, “Kenny can always stay with us if he can’t find a place”. This was in front of all of our friends! The thing is, Kenny has a place to stay. So I told him right then, “No, I don’t think that will be a great idea… especially since we’ll be newly married”. His response? He looks at me and says, “It will be fine….” Basically saying, don’t say another word about it, what I said is final. I didn’t want to start a fight in front of everyone so I didn’t say anything, but believe me we talked later on that night and Kenny will NOT be staying with us now, or ever. Baha!

Post # 11
4653 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

OMG Fi had his friend stay with us for a awhile and OMG I WILL NEVER HAVE A ROOMMATE AGAIN…. But now Fi and the friend dont even talk anymore…. Living with friends hardly ever works (even more so if you are at diffrent points in your life)

Post # 13
3011 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@chasesgirl: Oh yeah, he’s crazy.  Hahaha.  That would NOT slide with me.  I completely understand where you’re coming from.  I wish you the best of luck dealing with that.  I can’t imagine ever living with another person other than J.

Post # 14
2892 posts
Sugar bee

My guy wants to get a pet pig… we live in an apartment…in a city…enough said. 🙂

Post # 15
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

We have a friend who’s very depressed and lives with his parents. We’re trying to buy a house right now, and my husband’s brilliant idea was to let our friend move in with us to help raise his spirits and get him out of his parents house. Meanwhile, I don’t work b/c I’ll be a Stay-At-Home Mom and our friend doesn’t either, so I’m the one who’s going to have to be home with him all day long. It’s not worth making me crazy just to help out a friend!

Post # 16
229 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

So I can relate for sure to this!

My boyfriend at the time (now husband) moved to Boston with me for school. Long story short, his brother was already living in Boston, so the two of them ended up buying a house together and so it started out as my boyfriend, his twin brother, me and another guy roommate. We have had a different roommate each year (this is the end of year 3) along with the Brother-In-Law. I’m doing an Air Force dental school scholarship so we knew it would be a 4-year time period and that we would then sell it as I’ll be getting stationed to a base when I finish school.  Also my husband works out of town during the week so it is just me, the Brother-In-Law and the roommate monday-thursday.

I WOULD NOT recommend this unless you really know this person well and he doesn’t annoy you at all. If I could do it over we would be living in a studio if we had to to avoid this 🙂 I love my Brother-In-Law but I do not like living with him. I cannot wait until I graduate and we move by ourselves!

That said, they do earn enough that they could pay the mortgage on their own without my or a roommate’s help.

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