- 9 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
With the exception of a those few texts about being busy, I haven’t talked to him since he left on Monday. Nothing today… 🙁
I wouldn’t friggen call him. Not for a nano-second.
I would be pissy if my Fiance was out that late anyways. I mean what business dinner goes that late unless you own a nightclub or you’re in the show Entourage. Unless of course I was informed before. I’m sorry, but your on the road for business, I feel that I should be kept in the loop if you’re going to be out that late.
I’d be mad, not sad. And I would show him a little of my cool shoulder for a bit.
God Im a controlling bitch but seriously. Men piss me off sometimes.
How would he like it if the tables were turned around Coffeegirl?
If he wants you to ignore work calls, how is that fair?
Maybe start wtih how you named this post “You hurt my feelings”.
Text him this:
Re: not calling me back b/c you’re embarrassed? Don’t bother And do not bother calling me until you realise what a supreme asshole you are being to me, because until then? I have nothing nice to say to you anyways.
Ducking out during a business meeting to call an SO (whether is is over dinner and drinks or in a conference room in an office) is rude and unprofessional.
Just because the OP’s FI’s work environment/hours is different than what you are used to, doesn’t make it wrong.
That behavior is NOT okay with me. There are a number of way so try and handle this but I would start with an explanation of why you feel the need to talk to him while he is working. Just say, I miss you when you’re gone, I like to talk to you and I need to know you’re safe. I would not send you so many messages if you answer me nicely the first time and just let me know you’re okay. Otherwise, if you feel embarrassed by me, we have a larger problem we need to discuss.
He shouldn’t be embarrassed by you, EVER. Well, mostly ever. 🙂 Men speak to their SO’s at work every day. I speak to mine multiple times while he is at work. He even answers the phone when I call in case it’s important. But I try not to call unless I have to. Anyway, that behavior sends up a red flag for me. Why was he embarrassed? Was there someone there who didn’t need to know about you?
The part that I don’t understand is why he is “embarrassed” just by getting phone calls from you. How would he even be embarrassed if he had his phone on silent/vibrate anyway, which is the responsible thing to do in a work meeting/event? To me it sounds like he is just trying to make you feel bad by saying that he was embarrassed. Unless you called and he didn’t have his ringer turned down, which still would not be your fault. Three times might have been excessive, but he kept saying he would call and then didn’t. I agree he definitely could have had more tact with the whole situation, but I also think people tend to say things they shouldn’t when in a stressful situation, maybe the work environment at that time was stressful. I totally understand being upset though, *hugs*. I know I would be.
I just don’t buy he was in such a position for that long. Everyone pees. We aren’t talking about an hour here…. it was several hours.
I just wouldn’t tolerate such treatment.
My Fi and I are currently separated by half a world and a half a day time zone away and we have a time where we regularily communicate. And if he is going to be going out on a mission and knows he won’t have easy communication he TELLS me first so I don’t worry.
Her Fiance is acting like an ass about it.
From what I understand, he hadn’t talked to you all day, you had no way of knowing he was at a work function, so I don’t understand why he reacted so harshly. Call me paranoid, but I’ve had loved ones get injured in car accidents, etc and not answer their phones so I would be highly concerned if he didn’t talk to me all day.
I’m sorry you have to deal with this but you should definitely resolve this before you get married. I wouldn’t marry someone who knew my feelings about something and blatantly disregarded it because it wasn’t convenient for him.
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