(Closed) My FI is 9 years older than me …

posted 6 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m 24 and my fiance is 35. Frankly he’s young-acting and I’m sort of overly mature so we meet in the middle! 😛 The only issue we have with it is misunderstood pop culture references and my fear that he’ll be an ‘old dad’ by the time we have kids.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My Fiance is 38 and I am 29 honestly it has never been an issue for us. The only time we ourselves ever notice is when we listen to music together, he is a total 80’s nut and I was 8 when the 80’s ended 🙂 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

I think that far in it doesn’t even matter. If you were like, 18 it might be a bit weirder imo. I think a ton changes in your 20’s, so both of you mostly being out of that period greatly levels the playing field.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

9 years really isn’t a problem. Other people should mind their own business.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

It’s only a problem if you and him allow it to be.

Post # 9
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Busy bee

Yeah, I definitely don’t see it as a problem.

Age is really just a number.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

@Baimee:  You said exactly what I was going to say! 

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I don’t think it’s an issue at all! I’m 21 and my fiance is 29. And like a lot of people have been saying, he’s a little immature for his age, and I’m a little mature for mine, so it works out perfectly! We do get people that say things when they hear our ages though. Too bad for them! Most people think he’s 24 or 25 anyways.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper

@SkiBunny:  This!

My Fiance and I are 10 years apart and really it’s a non-issue.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We don’t have that much of a gap [5 years here], but I don’t see why it would be a problem. I think it’s nicer to have a man a little older since it takes them longer to mature. By now, you’re probably both at the same age maturity-wise.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Melp2017: He has an 11-year-old son, but we unfortunately rarely get to see him so it’s kind of a sore spot. It’s kind of crazy for me to realize I’m going to have a stepson, and a pre-teen at that, but he’s a wonderful kid. 🙂

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

age is just a number…  I am 41 and my fi is 34….you wouldn’t know it tho. he’s not a typical immature guy, and I am no typical 40ish woman…i feel more like 3oish and it shows.lol  people need to mind their own business and concentrate on their own lives.

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Where is the problem?

Those comments really shouldn’t bother you at all.

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