- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
I know this is a long post but would really appreciate some input…..am I being a bitch or is my Fiance being annoyingly bossy?
When we got engaged he asked when I wanted to get married. I wanted to get married within 6 months, only have an evening recption so we could have a really nice event (I don’t have loads of money) and just spend money on a honeymoon / deposit for a house. So he listened, then told me we had to do it properly, not the way I’ve always described my wedding day to him. So, because my Fiance insisted, we’re having a full day event, in what was over a year’s time, with 76 guests (only 26 are mine) and my mum is having to chip in alot because his parents are barely helping out and I simply can only save so much.
This I can just about get on board with…it’s his wedding too but this is what is seriously peeing me off….and I need to know what I can legitimately be angry about. I’m doing all the legwork. I look into things, meet with people, get all the info, negociate prices etc. Then my Fiance basically says no to everything. Here we go:
1. I asked to keep numbers really low for the day, around 30 guests. I’m inviting 18 people. He is inviting all sorts of people, most of whom i’ve never met. Now his mother keeps going behind my back and asking only him how many more people she can invite, that I’ve never met.There will now be around 50 people at the day time (32 of his) and I only know a few. My mum is paying for the sit down meal (she is not wealthy- his parents are) There will be few familiar faces as I walk down the aisle…..would this annoy you?
2. I want a sage green and ivory colour scheme. It goes with the venue, it matches my sister’s colouring(she’s my only Bridesmaid), and I think it’s classy. His response was simply no. I’m allowed to have gold or silver. Nothing else. I prefer gold but can only find variations of gold for the decorations and dresses etc so now he’s complaining the golds i’m picking don’t match enough with his cravatte and I’m obviously not looking hard enough….would this annoy you?
3. Of all the things we are paying for that I never wanted, I do really want canapes. I think we should feed people between the ceremony and the meal (a good 2-3 hours). He said no way. It’s a waste of money…..would you just agree with this?
4. I found a lady who will do our cake for half the normal price simply because she’s just starting out. I want a fruit layer, a chocolate layer and a victoria layer. He hates fruit so refuses a fruit layer. He also wants a cherry and almond layer but my sister, who is buying the cake, has a serious nut allergy. I said, no risks, lets just opt for a none nut layer. He kicked up a fuss and said she could just eat the chocolate layer….would this not annoy you?
I’m starting to lose it. I feel like i’m doing all the work and making no final decisions. Am i over reacting or is he just being a total pain in the arse?
If you’ve read this far….thank you 🙂