- 6 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
Hi Bees, I’m hoping I’m not alone! I love my Fiance so so so much. He is the sweetest guy and I can’t wait to marry him but for goodness sake he can not do holidays or special occassions. He is just SO clueless.
We rarely fight and it seems like the only time we do….is on the days that shouldn’t merit a fight! (birthdays, anniversary, Christmas)
Today is my birthday (yay) and unfortunately he has to work the DNC so he won’t be home till like 11 tonight – which is okay…I understand and I know he much rather be with me on my birthday then there. So I said to him last night, do you want to celebrate tonight or tomorrow when you get home?
1. He never knows what to get me….he always has to ask and I usually say, pick something and I will be happy with whatever you get me and hopes that he finds something…well when it gets down to like a few days before the event and I know he’s clueless…I finally say well I would love a new pandora charm for my bracelet. I gave him my bracelet since they make it nice and shiny at the store 🙂 in the box it originally came in.
So I always know my gifts – which is okay *sigh* until……..
He says lets do presents right now! Poor guy is all excited…he runs into the room and hands me the box that I gave him – that had my bracelet in it and thats it. No Happy Birthday card, no wrapping paper or at least a bag (it doesn’t even have to be pretty) no cake…nothing. I LOVE the gift…he picked a beautiful charm, it’s just the small things you know? the things that make a birthday a birthday. It felt like it could of been any other day and he just swung by pandora to clean my bracelet and oh yeah saw a charm I may like.
Why can’t he just pick me out a card…hallmark does all the heavy lifting for you and writes your feelings down on paper. You just have to sign the damn thing or maybe just wrap it…like it is a present! It’s the small things that count and are important to me…he knows this.
** This happened with our Anniversary…he didn’t even get me ANYTHING…I cried, on Christmas we were shopping on Christmas Eve for a gift to get his parents and the store was like ready to close and I said what did you get my parents? UH….. ARE YOU KIDDING ME?? not once while I was spending a lot of money for your family you didn’t think about mine? **
In conclusion, if you have read this you’re a trooper and I’m just sad it’s my birthday…and I’m alone till like 11pm and once again my lovely Fiance can’t even get me a card.
Last night of course I cried…he looked horrified and I said to him did you ever plan on getting me a card, cake or anything? He said no….and I could tell it just broke his heart too – I just don’t get it. I even said to him I put EVERYTHING in pretty bags how could you not know? It is hard to get mad at him because he feels terrible but I’m sorry you think you would learn by now.