Post # 1

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Busy bee
My poor Fiance. His Best man just told us last night that they are expecting (a couple we moved our wedding date around for just so we can go to their wedding and them to ours) we are thrilled for them, but their due date is 5 days after our wedding. They live in New Jersey and we live in Nevada. Not only that but Fiance works for a race team and they scheduled a race for the weekend of the wedding so none of his coworker friends will be there. I feel soooo bad, he feels like none of his good friends will be there with him. I don’t know what to do! I wish I could move the wedding date, but everything is taken care of except for the small details. GAHHHH!
Post # 3

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Honey Beekeeper
I’m so sorry that happened! I hope that he is able to have some friends come and have some time with this couple some other time.
Post # 4

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Buzzing bee
would a slightly different time of day work for the race buddies?
Post # 5

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Honey bee
I am so sorry to hear that. ๐ I hope everything goes ok and that some of his friends can come.
Post # 6

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Busy bee
I’m sure we will be able to go, but I just wish we had chosen a less eventful weekend.
Post # 7

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Busy bee
The race team is going to Wyoming I think, so not a chance.
Post # 8

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Sugar bee
Oh. That is a bummer. I hope some peeps can make it for him!
Post # 9

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Bumble Beekeeper
Put a bug in the ear of one of his local good friends and make sure they plan him one heck of a weekend getaway, just the guys, before the wedding. Maybe that’ll help.
I know J is looking forward to going camping and kayaking with his guys (they’ve done it for 3 bachelor parties running now) almost as much as he’s looking forward to the wedding… or maybe more but he’d never admit it to me. ๐
Post # 10

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Bumble bee
The same thing happened to us with a groomsman, he will have a beautiful baby who is 2 months old by the time our wedding rolls around… but he’s still coming [please note we have backup plans!]
Post # 11

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Busy bee
Daydream, I love that idea. I will make sure to get his number so that I can call him and ask him to come out for his bachelor party. I’ll get him a room on the LV strip at least a month before so him and his good buds will party and have a good time.
Post # 12

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Sugar bee
aww i TOTALLY feel your situation!
my FI’s extended family is only 1.5 away, but they don’t like to “travel” and he’s really sad that they might not all make it! to his WEDDING!
on TOP OF THAT, he doesn’t have a lot of close friends… a lot of acquaintances and his BFF, so he’s sad that he won’t have many friends to invite to the wedding either.
we did see the family up north over the holidays and we think we might have twisted their arms a bit (tho we shouldn’t have had to)… and FI is friends with a lot of my friends.. so we are going to have an AMAZING time regardless! ๐
Post # 13

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Bee Keeper
When my sister (MOH) told me she was pregnant and had specifically planned it around my wedding date at first I was shocked and appalled at the thought, but now it doesn’t sound so crazy to me anymore. She wanted to be there for me, and really could get pregnant anytime (she already has 2 kids). No instead of thinking she was crazy for doing that, I think she was being practical and very respectful.
If she’s due 5 days after your wedding, unfortunately, assuming the father wants to be there for the birth they won’t be able to come. And the second you change your wedding date for them they’ll either get pregnant again or decide to bring a screaming baby to your ceremony.
Post # 14

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Honey bee
What do you have done that your date can’t be moved… I see that your wedding is Sept of this year.
Are the invitations printed… save the dates? If those are done it might be hard to change your date.
If not, your reception place maybe flexible in your changing your date.
hope it works out for you.
Post # 15

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Helper bee
I would totally change the date, I would be so devastated too if I was your fi! For me weddings are about celebrating with family and friends and so if almost none of mine could make it on a specific weekend it wouldn’t be worth holding the wedding that weekend for me ๐ I hope you guys can figure something out!
Post # 16

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Busy bee
I have save the dates ready to be mailed, invitations being finished, church, venue, all vendors completed. We already moved the date for them once also because they were getting married around the same time we were. They wanted an October wedding and we had chosen September as our month, but then they couldn’t get October and chose September, so we changed ours to August.