Post # 1
I’ve been up since 8am this morning working and planning our wedding. The one thing I asked my Fiance to do was put an already addressed envelope in the mail this morning….he couldn’t even accomplish this task. Instead he drove to his mommy’s, while I was meeting with the florist and shopping for wedding supplies, to eat and play with his damn dog. I’m obviously very upset about this, especially since he’s been gone all week for work and has done zero things this week for the wedding. We’ve got less than 100 days to go and my list grows everyday. Right now, I’m feeling like calling off the wedding, because I’m sick of working my butt off and him just playing. I want to sit out in the sun and read, not address envelopes for his wedding guests. 🙁
Post # 3
@coffeegal85: I vote you take a day off.
Post # 4
@asscherlover: Agree! And after your day off, communicate with your Fiance and work out a timeline that both of you agree on for accomplishing the rest of the wedding tasks TOGETHER.
Post # 5
So go sit out in the sun and read!
As someone who is 2 weeks away from getting married (and been engaged for 16 months), trust me when I say that the details really are NOT that important. You need to take some time for yourself. Look at it from his perspective: he’s playing and taking time off and whatever and STILL GETTING MARRIED in the end. You can too. Don’t put this on yourself.
And also, listen to yourself – you seriously just said you should call off the wedding to the person you love and want to be your husband over what? The details. Don’t let this planning process take over and ruin what should be a happy time.
Post # 7
I scrap the day off and say take a week. Sometimes a good break is what you need. I learned this the hard way when I was super sick and basically incapable of doing anything. when I got back to it, I was so refreshed and had new perspective, so it was much nicer.
Good luck! And good luck to Fiance if and when he comes back 😉
Post # 8
Go outside and read!!! Unfortunately a lot of men just don’t care about the wedding as we do. And like Blanche said, at the end of the day the details just don’t matter. After you take the day off, have a long talk with your Fiance and rally his help & support.
Post # 9
Go sit in the sun. The martyr role doesn’t work for anybody. You can address envelopes this evening in front of the tv- you won’t be able to sit in the sun this evening.