(Closed) My FI is so picky! Any other grooms want to pick out their rings?

posted 9 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@bellenga….I picked out my FI’s ring without his input and seriously…the jeweler was shocked. I think the norm is that the couple usually picks out wedding rings together. If your Fiance wants to pick out his own…I say go for it. At least you know he will love it…and he won’t have any excuses for not wearing it =)

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

My fi was really really really picky about picking it out, but i’m the one buying it. i think if it makes him happy, just let him do it. Ten years from now you won’t really be thinking about it πŸ™‚

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Awe.

 

Well my SO did email me some pics of rings that he really really really likes lol.  But I’m paying for it.  I would in no way want him to buy his own ring.  For some reason, I just feel like that is something I need to do.  It just seems to me that the sentiment is lost if he purchases it himself.  It’d be like me picking out my engagement ring, buying it, and then asking SO to suprise me with it LOL.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My Fi is definitely picking out his own ring–we went to look and he was like, that’s the one I want (same as yours, a plain white gold band). I guess I never knew that wedding bands were supposed to be surprises! As for paying for it, we’re both paying for both our bands together–our finances are basically combined. Is he picking out your band on his own as a surprise?

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I thought the tradition was for the bride to pay for his ring (and he pays for hers) – not that she chooses it for him w/o his input.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

He is for sure choosing his own ring!  He’s the one who has to wear it forever.  I mean, with as many girls want a say in their set, the dudes should get a say too! 

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I never even considered buying Fiance his ring without his input!  We actually just went this week – and I picked out my wedding band and he picked out his.  I am so happy we did it that way – I want him to LOVE his choice, and he does! πŸ™‚  Like @Mermaid1082 said….he’s the one who has to wear it forever. πŸ™‚

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We went to look at wedding bands together – I picked out the one I wanted to wear, and he picked out the one he wanted to wear forever.  I can’t imagine picking out his ring personally.  We paid for them together.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

we will def be picking out our rings together but I know Fiance will not be picky… if he asked what i like i’ll tell him for sure but he can get whatever he likes.. i don’t care if they don’t match or anything too. i can see him saying, “which one do you like?” me pointing at one, and him saying “yep, i like it, lets get it”. ha!

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

My Fiance is really picky too, and wanted to pick out his own ring. When we went to pick out my wedding ring, he picked his out too. I am glad that he picked it out because he got to try it on and see how it will look and feel on his ring finger. I am glad he was able to pick out something that I know he will happily wear and that it will be comfortable for him to wear.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

My husband was really picky about his wedding band, but I wouldn’t have had it any other way. I got to pick my wedding band to my liking, so I thought it was only fair that he pick his wedding band to his liking too. It took us a long time to find his wedding band though because he had something very specific in mind and we couldn’t find it anywhere. At one point we thought we were going to have to get it custom-made, but then we went to a jewelry store we hadn’t visited and we found his perfect ring, exactly how he wanted it. He was very happy πŸ™‚  By The Way, he bought my band and I bought his band, as gifts to each other.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2008

Oh yeah, my husband picked his out and really took his time to find one that felt “right” on his finger.  I’ve actually never heard of the woman picking out the man’s ring without his input, from any of my friends’ experiences.  Especially if your guy doesn’t normally wear any rings (like most men don’t), I’m sure you want it to be something that he feels is perfect for him.  I paid for both of ours, as my salary is a lot more generous and we don’t keep track of who pays for what.

I’m sending you lots of good wishes for a smooth resolution of the sticky issue with your ex.

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