Post # 1
My fiance’s mother passed away when he was a kid. He has no relationship with his father, to the degree that he doesn’t even know about me, let alone that we are getting married. His grandmother is in his life but I don’t know if we should use his parents names regardless, or just something like ” The family of Groom” … but my parents are pretty traditional, especially my mom, and I know she would want her and my dad’s full names expressed.
Any suggestions how I can do this without it looking strange?
Post # 2
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
bfig2016: Talk to your mom and explain why you’re not listing names, I can’t imagine she’d be that upset if she understood the circumstances.
Post # 3
I’ve been estranged from my dad for over 20 yrs. I didn’t bother to mention him at all on our invites. We just did:
Daughter of Mrs._________
Son of Mr._______ & Mrs________
If you want to go traditional, a good option for you guys might me to go with this:
Daughter of Mr._____ & Mrs._______
Son of the late Mrs._______
Grandson of Mrs.__________
Not having my dad’s name on the invite went over just fine. Nobody commented on it and the invites looked great. Having his mom’s name on the invite might be a nice way to honor her, if your Fiance is comfortable with that. If you decide to use parental names be sure to ask your Fiance what he’s ok with. Try not to over think this. There are all kinds of alternative family situations. A friend of mine was raised by her aunt and uncle and their names were on the invites. It’s more common than you think.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t list any parents’ names – surely your parents will understand unless they’re narcissists! My H’s parents had both passed away before we got married, so we just listed our names.
Post # 5
I mostly see, “Together with their family, Bfig and BfigFi invite you . . . ” nowadays. However, if your parents are hosting, and you want to specifically acknowledge that, you can go with “BfigMom and BfigDad invite you to the wedding of their daughter, Bfig, to BfigFi.”
Post # 6
bfig2016: Are your parents hosting? If so, their names would go at the top as the hosts. You don’t need to name your FI’s parents at all on the invitation. If he would like his mother acknowledged, then you could put “son of the late Mrs. X” after his name, as someone suggested above. If he has no relationship with his father (I assume he’s not even invited), don’t include him on the invitation at all.