(Closed) My FI mother is deceased and father is estranged… help with invites/programs!

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 2
3470 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

bfig2016:  Talk to your mom and explain why you’re not listing names, I can’t imagine she’d be that upset if she understood the circumstances. 

Post # 3
746 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I’ve been estranged from my dad for over 20 yrs.  I didn’t bother to mention him at all on our invites. We just did:

Brides name

Daughter of Mrs._________


Groom’s name

Son of Mr._______ & Mrs________

If you want to go traditional, a good option for you guys might me to go with this:

Brides Name

Daughter of Mr._____ & Mrs._______


Groom’s Name

Son of the late Mrs._______


Grandson of Mrs.__________

Not having my dad’s name on the invite went over just fine.  Nobody commented on it and the invites looked great.  Having his mom’s name on the invite might be a nice way to honor her, if your Fiance is comfortable with that.  If you decide to use parental names be sure to ask your Fiance what he’s ok with.  Try not to over think this.  There are all kinds of alternative family situations.  A friend of mine was raised by her aunt and uncle and their names were on the invites.  It’s more common than you think.



Post # 4
893 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I wouldn’t list any parents’ names – surely your parents will understand unless they’re narcissists!  My H’s parents had both passed away before we got married, so we just listed our names.

Post # 5
381 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I mostly see, “Together with their family, Bfig and BfigFi invite you . . . ” nowadays. However, if your parents are hosting, and you want to specifically acknowledge that, you can go with “BfigMom and BfigDad invite you to the wedding of their daughter, Bfig, to BfigFi.”

Post # 6
766 posts
Busy bee

bfig2016:  Are your parents hosting?  If so, their names would go at the top as the hosts.  You don’t need to name your FI’s parents at all on the invitation.  If he would like his mother acknowledged, then you could put “son of the late Mrs. X” after his name, as someone suggested above.  If he has no relationship with his father (I assume he’s not even invited), don’t include him on the invitation at all. 


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