Post # 17
That is annoying – i agree, not the going away part. the “i took 2 work days off for this!” part. I don’t know about you, but i get as many days as I have fingers, and they are GOLDEN to me. SUPER IMPORTANT. My husband changed his flight once b/c he forgot I’d taken the day off to spend with him (not to be super dramatic – it was also my birthday). He was supposed to get in later in the afternoon but he came back on the first flight at 6am. It’s the principal of the thing.
Does he have to be gone 4 full days? Can he help at all? I would work on the painting, but not do it all. I mean, it’s EASIER to move in with the walls painted, but you can always put furniture in the middle of the room. A whole house of painting is not a job for one person..
Another suggestion would be to have the party at YOUR house. Get a bucket of margaritas and see if any of your friends would help. I would, if a friend asked me and bought some pizza and booze ;). And make yourself a get out of jail free card to give to the SO for something in the future, to be cashed in at your discretion NO QUESTIONS ASKED!
Post # 18
Ohhhh, I would be pissed! Seriously, how immature of him. You need to talk to him, calmly but firmly, and tell him exactly how you feel. Don’t just tell him you’re angry, tell him you feel hurt and even tell him what you wrote here. Then when you’ve said all that, ask him why he kept this from you even while he knew what your house painting plans were. I know he already told you, but ask him again. He might elaborate on why he acted why he did, or he might see what you mean once he hears himself repeating what he already told you.
You are not a monster! You’re allowed to feel this way, and you need to tell him everything; it’s only fair to both of you.
Post # 19
Do you think his friends would be willing to come over for a day or so and help paint?
You could supply beer and pizza.
Post # 20
Hey guys, thanks for your help. I painted for a while today, but I think I was doing a really bad job. My dad offered to help me out tomorrow…apparently you are supposed to tape the ceiling and windows before you start painting. Oh well, you learn something new every day heh. Luckily I started in the middle of the room, so I didnt really get close to the windows
My Fiance is coming back saturday sometime, so Im going to put him straight to work, I dont care how hung over he is. I think what bothered me the most was that he lied to me about just finding out about the party last night, when in reality he helped plan it and knew about it for a while. I feel like he intentionally tried to keep me in the dark, which bothers me on a whole other level.
Post # 21
I know this may not be what you want to hear, and for the record, I would be irritated too! But….maybe invite some girlfriends over, blast some music, get some take out or a pizza and have a girls paint night? Yes, it’s frusturating, and HELL YES he should have told you sooner, but maybe try to turn that frown upside down? I’m only saying that because I recently painted my apartment with my best friend and we did just that and had a blast. Painting sucks, but it can be fun. And as far as Fiance goes, I would definitely talk to him about his need to communicate.