(Closed) My FI saw my dress and he doesn't like it! :(

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
1292 posts
Bumble bee

You are crying about this? He’s not even going to remember it at your wedding. Plus, if you love it and feel great in it then that’s what matters.

Also, if you are crying and he keeps asking you what’s wrong and you won’t tell him and he storms off…this might be a hint that you are being overly dramatic about it.

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 8 months ago by beebee1983.
Post # 3
14049 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You will look so much better in person, all dolled up, than a cell phone camera will ever capture.  He probably got a half a second look at it.  Don’t let it worry you.  The day you walk down the aisle, he will melt and love the dress.

Post # 5
4054 posts
Honey bee

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aquabee:  I doubt he will be thinking “wow, that dress is ugly” as you’re walking down the aisle. If he does, he’s an ass. Do you love it? If so, rock it. 

Post # 6
5356 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2016

Seriously, he is not going to remember it at all. You’re going to look completely different on your wedding day and he will think you are gorgeous no matter what. I’ve shown my Fiance pics of me in like 15 dresses and he didn’t like ANY of them. 

Post # 7
653 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Well you have 3 choices:
1) Be honest with him and tell him that was your dress
2) Hoping he forgets by the time the wedding rolls around and keep it the same 
3) Add a belt or embelish it with a brooch

I would also investgate and find out why he didn’t like the dress. If he speculates anything and you do want to keep it a secret you can say the dress you got was similar and your sister was sending you the reject dresses and because it was similar you got startled as you didn’t get a chance to look at it close enough until later. 

Post # 8
899 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I honestly agree with your sister. First of all, do you really think he is going to remember what that dress looks like after all that time, especially after one quick glance? I mean, unless he is a guy who’s really into fashion and really pays attention to stuff like that. And  again, agreed on the whole, “You weren’t dolled up thing”. For him, he won’t even know it’s the same dress after you have your hair/makeup done and accessorize. I honestly wouldn’t even worry about it. When he sees you on your wedding day, he’s looking at you to see that you are happy and feel beautiful, not to rain on a lot of women’s dress dreams but I think a lot of guys don’t even really care about the dress, as long as their women feel beautiful and happy, that’s what they are concentrating on. How many married bee’s husband could actually recount the details of the dress worn that day?

Post # 9
244 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

If he tried to look away quickly then he probably didn’t even get a good look at it. If you love it and it took a long time to find one, then wear it proudly. 

Post # 10
698 posts
Busy bee

I doubt he would remember it- my fiance doesn’t remember what I wore yesterday or even what pjs I woke up in this am (we live together).  I think the dress looks beautiful!  It will look completely different once your hair and makeup is done and you have your accessories on (jewelry, veil, etc).  Don’t stress, be happy with your selection.  You will look beautiful 🙂

Post # 11
73 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Hazelton Manor - Vaughan Ontario

I don’t think he’ll remember it! There are many times I show Fiance a picture of a dress / outfit I bought in a store that he doesn’t like. Funny enough, when I wear it, he loves it! When I tell him he saw a picture and he didn’t like it, he doesn’t believe it.

Post # 12
5212 posts
Bee Keeper

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aquabee:  I tell him the truth. I think you need to tell him it’s your dress and you’re worried about what he thinks. I’m betting once he knows how good you feel in it, he’ll like it more 😉


Post # 13
14009 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I can understand why you are upset.  I don’t really agree with people who say “he won’t remember.” If he’s that opinionated, IMO he’s also likely to be the type who will remember. 

Your choices, as others have mentioned are to be honest, take your chances and wear it anyway, or start from scratch. None are ideal. If it were me, I’d tell him the truth. 

But I’m most concerned about why he’d  leave the house in frustratrion when you are so obviously upset. It shouldn’t take a genius to put 2 +2 together, and if that’s the case, I’d think he’d be a lot more sensitive. 

Post # 15
1996 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

its possible he just said that thinking that you didnt chose it so he shouldnt like it. 

And also. You need to tell him whats wrong so he doesnt think youre crying for some other reason. Communication is the key. 

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