(Closed) My FI told his mom not to come to the shower!!

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
4275 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I am very confused, how is buying you a car an act of betrayal? Somebody is being overly dramatic.

Post # 4
1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@ms. lovie bunny:  I feel like our Mother-In-Law is overreacting. You two are your own family unit now and it was a nice geasture for him to get you the car. I would call/text her and tell her while you do not understand her reation to the car, she is still welome to the wedding shower.

Hope it works out!

Post # 5
3886 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Dont try to handle it at all. Your Fi has to sort this one out on his own. Don’t even try to give him “advice.” He needs to learn how to grow strong relationships with you and his mother as he goes from being a son to being a husband, and it will go easier if he handles it in his own way, and not how he thinks you want it handled.

It may be hard to just sit back and watch, but I think that’s what you’ve got to do.

Post # 6
158 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Lucky you, Im bias cause take my Mother-In-Law as an example…

seriously please take her.

My Mother-In-Law seems to not realize that my husband is not HER husband. I would be totally happy if he told her not to come to my shower. Overly dramatic for sure

Post # 8
242 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

She’s just mad he’s making big decisions and no longer consulting her.  My Future Mother-In-Law often forgets that me and my Fiance are a unit that does not include her.

Post # 9
1414 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012


Stay out of it!

Let your Fiance handle her….

It sounds like she has some issues that she needs to work out with him.

Post # 10
288 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@ms. lovie bunny:  Stay out of it!  This is between him and his mother and your involvement would make a bad situation worse.  Be nice and smile when you see her and be supportive to your fiance.

Post # 11
9483 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

Wow.  I’m sorry she’s overreacting to him buying you a car.  As you said, you’re going to be married soon.  I sold my car for Fiance so he could buy a work van.  I was sort of expecting my grandparents to be upset because they DID buy me the car, but they were completely supportive.  I’m glad your Fiance is sticking up for the two of you though.  I hope all of you can sit down and get this situation straightened out before the wedding.  I also hope she sucks it up and comes to your shower willingly and wanting to celebrate happily with you.  Best of luck.

Post # 12
5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

She is being extremely over dramatic. Frankly, I think your FH is right to ask her not to come to the shower then!

Post # 13
555 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012


Post # 15
1962 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@ms. lovie bunny:  I don’t think that should change anything. He has a right to do with his money as he wants. When you two get married the money will belong to both of you unless you have a prenup or something. What he does with his money (even if it is inherited) is none of their business. Have you ever had problems witht them before? Do they generally like you? 

Post # 16
250 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

How do his parents even know it’s the inheritance money?  It’s all his money now.

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