(Closed) My FI told his mom not to come to the shower!!

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 32
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

Good luck with your shower today.

Post # 33
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

His parents sound like 2 dickheads. I’m failing to understand the “betrail” and the need to ask for the house key back. Whatever. I hope your shower went OK! At least your Fiance is on your side. Some people’s parents are just nuts.

Post # 35
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Wow!  His parents sound immature, possessive, and totally whacked!  Have they found out yet that the Earth revolves around the sun, and not around them?

Post # 36
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

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@ms. lovie bunny:  How long ago did he receive the inheritance? IE– how long ago did his grandparents pass on? They may feel betrayed at how soon he’s using the funds. People get touchy when death is involved (if this was the case) and some people have the mindset of “their grade isn’t even cold yet and ________”  know what I mean? 

Not siding with his fam, just wondering where they’re coming from. The way they are going about it though is a little posessive.

Post # 38
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Girl, I feel your pain. My Future Mother-In-Law treats Fiance like he’s 8 years old and her husband. It results in a lot of temper tantrums on her part, which Fiance does not tolerate anymore, but old habits die hard. I agree with all of the other Bees saying stay out of it (sounds like you are- good). 

I often wish my Fiance had the no nonsense attitude your Fiance has regarding cutting out his parents of they aren’t treating him well. Ultimately, if they don’t attend the wedding, they are choosing to do so either by not coming or by acting so terribly that they cannot be permitted to attend. 

I would ask your Fiance if this is worth losing his parents over. It’s his choice, but I would encourage him to have one sit down heart to heart with them in which yelling, storming out, swearing, etc isn’t allowed. 

Post # 39
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Bright side: Your Fiance supports you 100%! It’s good to hear he can recognize when his parents are being unreasonable and is quick to to defend and support you. I hope things work out with the parents, but at least you know you have an amazing partner who is 100% dedicated to you and puts you first!

Post # 40
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

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@ms. lovie bunny:  Well that was really nice of his brother!  It’s kind of amazing your FI’s parents raised such considerate boys but are acting like this.  I hope things get ironed out before your wedding and you don’t stress about too much between now and then.

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