- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2015
Help me, bees- I am at such a loss. Maybe about a year ago (before we got engaged), my fiance told me that he didn’t believe in the institution of marriage. About 6 months after that, he proposed, which led me to believe that he had changed his mind. Last night, he told me that he still didn’t believe in marriage, but that he still wants to get married as a formality, to make it official, for the commitment, etc. I have pretty much been in tears since. I am just having such a hard time understanding how he can not believe in something but still want to do it anyway. Am I crazy for thinking this way? It just makes no sense to me. For some things in life, I understand that you might not believe in them, but you’ll still do it regardless (like taxes, for example- but for things like this, it’s not like you have much of a choice). But for something as important as marriage, it IS a choice that you make, and it’s a choice that you don’t necessarily have to make (meaning you don’t have to get married if you don’t believe in it). My head is so fuzzy and spinning and just plain unsure about anything at this point, I am so devastated. He doesn’t seem to be changing his stance- he insists that he still wants to get married, but I am just not sure what to think.
Thanks for listening. If anyone can shed some light, it would be most appreciated. 🙁