Post # 1
My Fiance and I are really going at it right now. I really need some insight.
My Maid/Matron of Honor was initially my best friend. In the begining she was really unresponsive (I later found it was due to another wedding she was in at the time). People (fi, fi’s family) said I should tell her to step down. So I did stupidly and regret it more then anything related to this wedding.
I asked FI’s cousin to be my Maid/Matron of Honor. We didn’t really know each other but her and Fiance are close and she was so happy when we got engaged and was really into the whole thing.
Well now that we are a month away from the wedding, she hasn’t really been too involved. So Fiance decided to plan a bachelorette party for me. At first I was like sure whatever. He was just organizing it and not actually coming. But after I thought about it, it felt pretty lame to have my Fiance organize my own party. So I said forget it, but it was too late. Everyone had been called. It is next weekend.
Now, again, he wants to plan my shower. He says that he feels reponsible for me not having my best friend as my Maid/Matron of Honor because he egged me on to “fire” her. And that his cousin isn’t doing anything so he should step up.
So now we are going at it because I think it’s pretty pathetic for him to plan this stuff for me and I don’t even want either of these events. And he thinks I am being negative.
Please tell me what to do 🙁
Post # 3
@tranquility: ummmm… have him call up your friend and take the blame for you asking her to step down and then let her do it???
Other than that, for the sake of peace, let him plan. And use it for later 😉 (I know, I know, I’m evil).
Seriously, though, at least he’s admitting he’s the reason for your friend being “fired” (sorta) and is taking responsibility for it. It sounds like it’s his way of getting rid of the guilt.
Post # 4
@Zinzerena: peace sounds like a good idea
Post # 5
I think that you are overreacting to this. What’s done is done, in regards to your friend, so I would let that go.
Your fiance wants you to indulge in the whole wedding related process, and that is a great thing. In fact, it is a friggen wonderful and sweet thing that he is doing. I would just let it go, enjoy the events, and let it be. You will have a great time, regardless who plans it, and you most likely won’t regret it.
Post # 6
It sounds like he is trying to make a bad situation better – and while I can see your point about how this whole situation appears weird to others; keep in mind that now days so many things are “unconventional” so I say, who cares if he’s planning?
Post # 7
@tranquility: (((((HUGS))))) and look at the bright side: not many guys would do this!!! You can brag about it later!! 😀
Post # 8
I think what he is doing is awfully sweet. Unconventional? Yes, but so many traditions have changed over the years. I would also brag about it!
I’m sorry about your friend and your regret in that area, however.
Post # 9
I am seriously a stupid wreck.
I will let him do it and it will be grand.