(Closed) My Fiance asked if we can move our date back yet again…I am torn

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

If his reasons for pushing back the wedding are mostly financial, then maybe you could let him know you don’t really want a big wedding.  Unless you do – and in that case, having the wedding in March would definitely allow you to have time to save.  It just all depends on what you guys want.  March 2012 is almost just a year away… as long as you’re willing, it’s not too long of a wait! πŸ™‚

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think you should just do what your heart tells you and convey that to him.  I think you have a sweet guy so if I were in your shoes..i’d get marry sooner rather than later. :p Either way, you got a keeper so enjoy it no matter what you decide. πŸ™‚

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

If it isn’t what you want, tell him. But time wise? A year isn’t long to wait at all and it will fly by before you know it! πŸ™‚

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I agree with the others.  If you don’t care about all the frou frou, just tell him.  You guys can still get married at Amelia Island.  Just on a smaller scale. 

(SN: 7/7 is my daughter’s birthday!!)

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2012

My fiance asked me the same question last week and it broke my heart. His reasons also had something to do with money purposes and giving me the wedding he feels I deserve. But it felt like he was calling it off to me. Why do I feel this way?? Because I want to be his wife and I want him to be my husband. I can live without all the crazy stuff that will only be there for one day. Neither do I want to push back starting our lives together because I have to scale down what I serve to my guests for 1 meal!!! It seems a little extreme when you think about it. And I can definitely settle for paper roses instead of a budget of $4,000 of real roses. Bottom line is, if you don’t care about all the extras, spend all that other time and money and effort on what really matters to you. Ex: Building your new home, shopping for furniture, starting on new babies:-), and spending every night from July to March with your man right by your side. I think that one day of being a bride and groom is alot to get caught up in. Or on the other hand you guys could get married in your private ceremony in July and then renew your vows in March and have the party of your life. Think about it:-)

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Well with you all getting married on 07/07 that should help with not feeling like he’s calling it off. Cause you will be married! But if the frills and Saturday are NOT important then I say just tell him that you don’t need all of that are want to stick with the October date!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Tell him what you want. Your dream wedding may be to get married ASAP. Not wait until next year. .  . thats sort of bitter sweet.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@FairytaleEnding:Thats amazing!! Im glad you all came up with this decision. I feel sometimes its best cause the wedding industry is crazy.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@FairytaleEnding:

I think your Fiance is awesome for thinking of you.  if you feel its genuine and his heart is in the right place, whats wrong with waiting?  It will make it THAT much more special! sounds to me like he wants you to have everything you wanted.  and the date he has set seems to meet that requirement.

however, I think you should also let him know that this is the last time the date will be moved back:)  you are read, and you want things to be perfect, and this sounds perfect and it cant get anymore perfect. 

Maybe you could have an intimate ceremony, small and quaint with just family before then, and then use the new date for the reception?

just a thought. Good Luck

Peace and Love!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Great idea! Glad you all figured it out w/out a lot of turmoil!  Sometimes I wish we could do the same, but at the same time I want the big wedding and our is May 19 2012 but with all the financial stuff hitting us lately it’s not been good! πŸ™

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