My fiance called off our wedding

posted 2 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee

Threatening to call off the wedding is a no-go on your part. Sounds like this is possibly a good thing. Get off Weddingbee and talk to your man about what has him unhappy and how you can fix things. Does he want to call the wedding off for good or is he just in a bad mood? Talk to him!

Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper

It sucks that he called your bluff but you can’t play with people’s emotions and not expect some backlash. Threatening to cancel the wedding during fights is incredibly manipulative. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

Everybody has a threshold. He may be using the same tactic you are to hurt you like what you did to him. He may be fedup about you using cancelling the wedding to get your way.

It’s not the way to start a marriage. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

If your fiance called off the wedding you aren’t about to get married in 17 days. Sounds like a blessing in disguise bc your actions don’t exactly scream maturity. Someone who *always* threatens to cancel a wedding is likely not ready for marriage.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

What have you been fighting about?

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

Talk to your fiancé.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

How old are you? Who repeatedly threatens to call of their wedding? What did you think would happen?

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

I hate to be insensitive but it sounds like this is for the best.

Spend some time figuring out what the issues are in your relationship and work to improve them. No one should be threatening or blackmailing another in a relationship.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

Fair is fair. You have played with his emotions countless times by “always threatening” to call off the wedding. Now he has actually done what you have threatened. What did you expect? You’ve been inviting trouble and you’ve finally found it. It’s hard to feel bad for you…

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper

It sounds as if neither of you is ready to get married. Take some time apart to figure out what is important to you as individuals and then work together on your relationship if that makes sense. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

This wasn’t what I expected when I opened this post.  I guess he called your bluff.  If I was constantly being threated on having the wedding called off I would have reached a breaking point too.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

I mean I am sorry that it didn’t work out but it’s pretty difficult for me to actually feel bad about it. Your post screams immaturity and manipulation. This may be a blessing in disguise, good luck bee! 

Post # 14
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Busy bee

These responses are not going to ease your mind – self reflect,  recognize the issue and apologize. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

You were playing relationship roulette… 

I think you need to really think about why you were behaving this way. 

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