- MOB from VA
- 9 years ago
I have been where you are, and it hurts like crazy. I am SO sorry for you. You are correct to insist that everything is put on hold until you both have time to think about what this means for your future. Of course he’s sorry, and feels like a jerk, and realizes he might have ruined the best thing that ever happened to him. But when things got tough, he bailed on your relationship. That means YOU need to concentrate on how YOU feel — not just betrayed and hurt today, but on what that means for the long term. Will his actions haunt you forever? Will you be able to truly forgive and forget? There is no right answer, and the decision must be the one that YOU (and you alone) can live with. I made one choice; I have friends who made the opposite choice, and it worked out because our choices were the right ones for us.
Be good to yourself right now. You deserve it. Take the time you need, see a therapist to confront your fears of ending or continuing the relationship, and don’t let anyone or anything take precedence over determining what is best for you. Again, I’m sorry for your pain.