(Closed) My fiance cheated on me for 2 years. Now I am not sure what to do.

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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375 posts
Helper bee

Because “it’s just sex” is not a legitimate excuse. It’s cheating. Also, the fact that you’re frequently tired does not give him license to cheat. A serial cheater like this will always cheat. There’s no monogamy for this guy. Get out. ASAP. 

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

You can be devastated but be devastated from a distance.  Let him go because he isn’t worth you or your time.  He’s proven he can’t be faithful so there is no future here.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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jillybeanz:  He will never change. If you are OK being cheated on, stay. If you want to be in a monogamous relationship, leave. Do not buy a house with him until you figure it out!!

Post # 5
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254 posts
Helper bee

So you, the person he “loves” doesnt want as much sex as him, so his solution is to be sex buddies with a co-worker? Yeah hunny he REALLY loves you. Come on girl, stand up for yourself, show yourself respect and leave this jerk. You gave him chances and he blew it, what makes you think he will change this time? Stop being a doormat and find someone who will love you and NOT cheat on you. You are worth much more than this loser. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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jillybeanz: I’d be out but Fiance and I have a zero tolerance policy on cheating. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Unless you want a marriage of infidelity, get your stuff and get out. No more chances, no more excuses. Its just sex is not an excuse. Soon he’ll be saying its just an STD. If you want monogamy, he’s not the guy for you.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

If you’re ok with your husband “just” having sex with other women for the rest of your life, then yeah, buy a house and marry him. It’s crystal clear he doesn’t see it as a problem and has no intention to change.

Post # 9
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Helper bee

Ummm wow.  Seriously?  No more chances.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Stop Stop Stop. He will NOT change. He has shown you he won’t. How many freaking chances are you going to give him!

Do NOT buy a house with this guy and do NOT marry him, no matter how painful or embarassing it might be.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

How can you not be sure? You saw the man you love fucking a 21 year old in his car..

As if the other issues weren’t enough… That should be the last straw, how disgusting. I don’t know who has less respect.. Him for you or you for yourself.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

 Please get some self esteem and leave this guy asap, you are teaching him that he can do anything to you and you’ll just sit back and take it.

Unless you want to share your husband with every slut in town I would not under any circumstances get married.

How do women even come to a place where they think that a guy like this is the marrying kind?? He can’t even keep his dick in his pants!

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

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jillybeanz:  he will cheat on you on and off for the duration of your marriage. This is not a one off mistake to be forgiven, this is years of deception. Youd be A FOOL to marry him.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2000

Fuck that. Even though it probably wasn’t the “right” thing to do, I have to admit I chuckled when I read that you hit them. And shame on your parents for wanting you to keep giving him chances. You did. He screwed up. He’ll probably get drunk again in his lifetime. Will that make it ok for him to have sex with another woman? Nope. 

Get out while the gettin’s good, as they say.

Post # 15
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47432 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

There is no excuse for cheating

Apparently there is, because you are making excuses for his cheating.

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