Post # 1
We have been together for 5 years, living together for 2 years. He was occationally (every other month) having sex with a receptionist at his work for a year (he is in upper management). I found out that he cheated last year. He said that it was just sex. I had a job that required a lot of traveling and I was always tired when I was at home from my travels so we did not have sex as often as we used to before I took this job. We went through hell for a few months, crying and trying to work through it. I found out again last September that he still occationally seeing her so I reached out to her to talk. She met up with me and told me she just wanted to have fun. She’s 21 (I’m 30) They are not in love. He loves me. She likes the sex. He told her we weren’t having sex often at home so she told him that they could be sex buddies. She said that she will stop seeing him. After a few weeks of separation, he and I decided to work through it again. I loved him very much that I was willing to risk it. I switched positions at work so I wouldn’t have to travel so we would have more time together. Sex has always been our problem. He wants more, I don’t. After trying to work out our issues for 5 months, things were getting better. We decided to get married and he proposed. One week after we got engaged, I found him drunk having sex with her in the car after his company party. They said it was the first time since last September. Again she said she just wanted sex not him. He said he was sorry, he loved me and wished it was never happened. He was intoxicated and wanted sex. She was easy, no string attached and she tried to sleep with him for months. I don’t blame the girl, I blame him. There is no excuse for cheating. I was so angry and humiliated, I hit both of them and crashed his car. I feel so stupid fot still loving him very much. I know he loves me otherwise he would have already left. But he is extremely selfish and he is taking me for granted. We are already buying a house together and getting married soon. Now I don’t know what to do. Our parents are telling me to give him one more chance and work through it again. He is begging to stay and promise to change… I am just devastated, torn and exhausted from everything..
Post # 2
Because “it’s just sex” is not a legitimate excuse. It’s cheating. Also, the fact that you’re frequently tired does not give him license to cheat. A serial cheater like this will always cheat. There’s no monogamy for this guy. Get out. ASAP.
Post # 3
You can be devastated but be devastated from a distance. Let him go because he isn’t worth you or your time. He’s proven he can’t be faithful so there is no future here.
Post # 4
He will never change. If you are OK being cheated on, stay. If you want to be in a monogamous relationship, leave. Do not buy a house with him until you figure it out!!
Post # 5
So you, the person he “loves” doesnt want as much sex as him, so his solution is to be sex buddies with a co-worker? Yeah hunny he REALLY loves you. Come on girl, stand up for yourself, show yourself respect and leave this jerk. You gave him chances and he blew it, what makes you think he will change this time? Stop being a doormat and find someone who will love you and NOT cheat on you. You are worth much more than this loser.
Post # 6
: I’d be out but Fiance and I have a zero tolerance policy on cheating.
Post # 7
Unless you want a marriage of infidelity, get your stuff and get out. No more chances, no more excuses. Its just sex is not an excuse. Soon he’ll be saying its just an STD. If you want monogamy, he’s not the guy for you.
Post # 8
If you’re ok with your husband “just” having sex with other women for the rest of your life, then yeah, buy a house and marry him. It’s crystal clear he doesn’t see it as a problem and has no intention to change.
Post # 9
Ummm wow. Seriously? No more chances.
Post # 10
Stop Stop Stop. He will NOT change. He has shown you he won’t. How many freaking chances are you going to give him!
Do NOT buy a house with this guy and do NOT marry him, no matter how painful or embarassing it might be.
Post # 11
How can you not be sure? You saw the man you love fucking a 21 year old in his car..
As if the other issues weren’t enough… That should be the last straw, how disgusting. I don’t know who has less respect.. Him for you or you for yourself.
Post # 12
Please get some self esteem and leave this guy asap, you are teaching him that he can do anything to you and you’ll just sit back and take it.
Unless you want to share your husband with every slut in town I would not under any circumstances get married.
How do women even come to a place where they think that a guy like this is the marrying kind?? He can’t even keep his dick in his pants!
Post # 13
he will cheat on you on and off for the duration of your marriage. This is not a one off mistake to be forgiven, this is years of deception. Youd be A FOOL to marry him.
Post # 14
Fuck that. Even though it probably wasn’t the “right” thing to do, I have to admit I chuckled when I read that you hit them. And shame on your parents for wanting you to keep giving him chances. You did. He screwed up. He’ll probably get drunk again in his lifetime. Will that make it ok for him to have sex with another woman? Nope.
Get out while the gettin’s good, as they say.
Post # 15
There is no excuse for cheating
Apparently there is, because you are making excuses for his cheating.