(Closed) My fiance cheated on me for 2 years. Now I am not sure what to do.

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 91
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Helper bee

Stand up for yourself babe and dump this class A douchebag. 

Post # 92
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Helper bee

easy: use common sense & LEAVE. 

Post # 93
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Busy bee

You won’t find your own strength until you do leave him. 

I know it’s hard. It’s horribly terribly hard to leave.  But sometimes you have to get over that fear and do it. When you do you would not believe the sense of empowerment you end up feeling. Control over your life.

Do not buy a house with him. Do you really want to pitch in for a house and the next girl he is with? Because that’s what you are doing. You don’t have a real future with him? You have a fantasy of what could be..but it’s never going to be. 

 

Post # 94
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Newbee

Things are not going to change. He is clearly going to have another woman on the side, whether it be this young girl or a new one, for the duration of your relationship. You should leave him before things go any further with a house or wedding planning. You don’t want to spend the rest of your life looking over your shoulder. 

Post # 95
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017

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jillybeanz:  WTH? Is this for real!? Have some self-respect and dump the asshole!! Absolutely no second chances. He doesn’t love you and you will never have a happy marriage with him.

Post # 96
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Helper bee

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Post # 97
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

” i know he loves me otherwise he would have already left.” he hasn’t left because he gets support from a regular girlfriend and love,  you dote on the guy, then he can go shove it up the receptionist, and her! I wouldnt have had a civilised chat with her in would have flung her over the table, who the fuck does she think she is! She only wants him for sex, they are both laughing at you! Move on, I can’t believe you saw them fucking and didn’t do anything about it, I would have ripped my Fiance A new asshole! Leave before you do yourself permanent damage, one day you will look back and go, “why did I waste my tears on that waste of space”

Post # 98
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

… I will never understand people in relationships with serial cheaters who whine when the cheater cheats. Don’t like it? Move on!

Post # 99
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2020

Wtf why are you still with him.. Girl you can do better!!!!

Post # 100
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

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Post # 101
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - Hunting Hill Mansion

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divinerose:  omg I was just about to comment the same. I was reading through the comments and couldn’t help but think, “Um, are we not going to address the fact that she hit them with her car or….?” 

Post # 102
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I’m sorry but catching him screwing her in his car one week after he proposed to me would’ve been the final straw if I’d even forgiven him for the first few times. Look OP, you’ve shown this man you are a doormat and so he will continue to treat you as one. My advice is to call off the house buying, the wedding, and the entire relationship and start fresh with not someone new, but yourself. Because right now you are showing that you don’t love yourself by letting him treat you like this, and trust me if you do decide to jump straight into dating, predatory men can smell a girl with low self esteem a mile away. I should know, because I used to be that girl til I got fed up and decided that I was worthy of love and wouldn’t let anyone dictate to me what my boundaries in a relationship were and what my self worth really was.

Post # 103
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Leave his sorry butt. he won’t change. I’m so sorry honey

Post # 104
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Newbee

 I am curious you say :our parents wants me to give him another chance why?!? sorry if this is too forward but how can they say that how are they making this advice even close to being reasonable?!? I must be missing something here because i do not understand that.

You are not maried yet in my opinion its time to go. I would expect that types of comments from parents if you guys were married or had kids but still….

Post # 105
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

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jillybeanz:  I am going to tell you now, he is never going to change. My father has been married to his wife for over 50 years. He has never been faithful to her. My sister and brother are products of his affair (My mother lived in a different county, so she never new he was married. He told her he was an only child and both his parents were only children and were deceased) When she found out he was married (she was pregnant with my sister) she ended the relationship. He has since fathered more than 8 other children (his wife has 2) and continues to cheat on her to this day.

Not saying he won’t/can’t change, but he will never change for you. Bottom line, hHe does not love you enough to respect you.

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