(Closed) My fiance cheated on me for 2 years. Now I am not sure what to do.

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 106
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Newbee

 

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amanda3334455:  I think it is very brave for you to have shared your personal story and i dont think anyone should judge you. Obviously you know what you did was wrong but you definitely learned enough from your mistake to share in maybe helping others.

Post # 107
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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jillybeanz:  I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I know it’s easier said than done but this isn’t an isolated event — it looks more like a habit for him. Habits are hard to break and if sex as always been an issue for the both of you like you mentioned I don’t see that aspect getting better by marriage. Sorry but I don’t think this is a healthy relationship for you all. 

Post # 108
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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jillybeanz:  I don’t even need to read the rest of the post to know how to answer this dump him now. Don’t marry this guy.

Post # 109
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Newbee

One thing I can tell for sure is that he does not love you. If he loved you he would respect you. He claims he loves you, but what kind of love is this? He is very selfish. He has done it multiple times after being caught and although he seems to regret it, his actions definitely do not. You need to leave him. Your relationship will not change and he will continue to cheat. You are just asking for a miserable marriage. I don’t understand why your family wants you to go through with this when he has cheated on you many times.

Post # 110
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Sorry but you’re an idiot and it’s happening because you’re letting it happen. THEY WERE SLEEPING TOGETHER FOR YEARS. If it were me, I would have cut him out of my life and NOTHING could have helped. Sorry OP you don’t get my sympathy for allowing yourself to be walked over.

Post # 111
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Newbee

Girl RUN, do not walk, away from this engagement and relationship. You gave him more chances than he deserved and he has shown you time and time again exactly how little he cares for and respects you. Actions speak louder than words. You deserve someone who loves and respects you enough to remain faithful to you. 

Post # 112
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

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jillybeanz:  I am so, so sorry you are going through all of this pain.  It’s not your fault, it’s a fault within HIM.  Get out, go now.  Don’t marry him and then bring children into this very unfortunate and painful situation.  You deserve better.  

Best of luck to you   

Post # 113
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

To me, it sounds like you have already given him chance after chance.  It wasn’t just one time, it was many times over years, if you think he honestly will stop, you are pretty naive.  Please, leave him.  You deserve someone better.  Someone who really loves you.  It shouldn’t be “just sex.”  Sex should mean something and it should be with you.  

Post # 114
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Bumble bee

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jillybeanz:  sorry, people who love you don’t treat you that way.

he jeaporodize his health and makes himself vulnerable to STDS, HIV, AIDS, everytime he sleeps with her.

a man who loves you doesn’t phr you in harms way.

a mistake is one time. After that, it’s a choice. 2 years? That shows he could care two shits about you, your health, your emotions, ext.

you deserve better 

Post # 115
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Bumble bee

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jillybeanz:  where there is a will, there is a way.

you are not leaving because you have chosen too. unless he is holding you prisoner, it’s choice.

leaving might be hard, emotional, physically, ext. sometimes you have to take a hit, to make things better.

im sure it will be soooooo much easier to leave once you buy a house together and married, and then will need a divorce attorney.

 

Post # 116
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Buzzing bee

I may be VERY old, but even I can’t grasp the concept of “just sex”.

Being “engaged” carries with it the committment to sexual exclusivity.

Get out without looking back, and bonus points if you’ve never been exposed to an STD.

This person isn’t worth the cost of a weekday newspaper.

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