(Closed) My Fiance Died

• MrsYokiman
• 6 years ago

com4rt:  I have thought about you often and wondered how you were doing. Thanks for checking in, and you still continue to be in my thoughts and prayers!

• catgirl
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: August 2014

i’m so so so sorry. Sending prayers and love xxx

• MissTiramissu
• 6 years ago

I’m so sorry to hear this. My thoughts and prayers will with you.

• Notcool
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: April 2015

My heart, thoughts and prayers go out to you and family

 

• Absolotum
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: February 2014

com4rt:  one of my best friend’s fiance died in a very sudden way about 4 months before their wedding.where as I myself have never been in that situation, I did stand by her side during the last year. Truly, nothing we say will take away your pain ( I hope we could), but my Girlfriend tried to cope in some ways: go to therapy. You do not have to go through this all by yourself & having a place/ person to process these very complex feelings,  your anger and grief is crucial & will help hugely with the healing process. Rely on your belief; even if not religious, a spiritual immersion, meditation, will help you to synch all of that crazy energy flow. Keep yourself busy and above all, TAKE YOUR TIME. Be sad and miserable and feel sorry for yourself when you feel like it’s necessary but also know when it’s time to get up, shake off the tears and move on, day by day, with your life. I wish you all the best and a lot of strength!

• chewy88
• 6 years ago

My father passed away of cancer after being with my mother for almost 10 years and it devastated her (and I of course). All I can say is to take care of yourself, seek a quality therapist for yourself, fully greive, fully feel the pain, don’t try to block it out and don’t drink or do drugs. 

 

My mom didn’t date for almost 10 years after my dad’s death. It really devasted her and changed her but she was strong and kept a sense of humor. 20 years after his death she still speaks of how much she loved my father, what a good man he was, etc. She doesn’t seem to cry for him anymore but she remembers him on his birthday and the anniversary of his death.

 

I have greived a lot in my short life and something that I learned is that when a person dies the love never goes away. The pain is almost unbearable at first but it gets better as years pass and in the end you’re left with the memories and the love I had for my relatives and the love I felt from them has never died.

• This reply was modified 6 years, 4 months ago by  chewy88.

• Vivi30
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: March 2015

My sincere condolences. I am so sorry… nothing I say will make anything better but I hope you will accept a HUG…

Please let us know how you are doing.

xo

• Kerry Gardner Shankle
• 4 years ago

I know this is late, but I am so sorry for your loss.  I hope you have learned how to live again with your grief.  I do h, however, have a question.  A friend of mine lost her fiancée a month before their wedding day to cancer.  When the day arrives, do we acknowledge it and do something special for her?  To let her know that we haven’t forgotten and realize what that day should have been?  Do we just pretend it’s just another day unless she brings it up herself?

• bywater
• 4 years ago

 

Kerry Gardner Shankle :  I was widowed at 30.  My best advice is to ask her what she wants you to do.  And, go from there.  I learned what works for one person in the grieving process may or may not work for another.

 

• anothernewbee16
• 4 years ago

Kerry Gardner Shankle :  I also lost my husband to cancer (though not before our wedding).  The anniversary of his death is still very hard on me, even 6 years later now.  So I really appreciate when friends reach out and tell me they are thinking of me and ask if I need anything on that date.  I would recommend that you do the same for your friend.  She is not going to forget what the date is — and it will mean a lot to know that other people remember too.  Just ask her if she would like some company, ask what might feel best for her, and take her lead.  I think the worst thing you could do would be to say nothing and wait for her to come to you … people who are grieving rarely do that, and it can feel hurtful when people “ignore” you during a painful time.  Even if they are well-intentioned friends who just don’t know what to say or do.

• anothernewbee16
• 4 years ago

com4rt :  I just wanted to say I’m sorry for your loss too.  How awful.  I know from experience that the pain never goes away, but I hope you’ve been able to rebuild your life in the past few years.