(Closed) My fiance doesn't clean the house and leaves poop on floor. I am fed up!

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

oh no no no NO!!! I had to stop reading after “he covers the dogs poop with newspaper” to stop myself from gagging. I’m not a clean freak but SO and i live pretty clean and he helps a ton, some days he does more cleaning than i do bc i do majority of the cooking. Talk to him about that and tell him a gross house is a deal breaker for you. Plus you dont want to bring babies into a house like that!! ugh…sorry bee. 

Post # 3
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5956 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

confusedandscared:  Is this for real?? You’re going to marry a guy who is disgusting? Poop, vomit, ashes, and garbage? THAT’S not a slob. That’s <insert word that means way worse than a slob here>. You can’t have people over? You could certainly never have children, they’d be taken away. He needs help, for real. And I feel bad for the dogs living in that filth. Never ever ever think you are going to change someone.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013 - Callanwolde Fine Arts Center

You have talked to him about changing and based on his actions, he has decided that he doesn’t care. Maybe try one more time with an emphasis that you don’t want to spend the rest of your life dealing with this problem.

That would definitely be a deal breaker for me.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Heck i stopped reading after smoking in the house. Nope, i have advice other then to drop his sorry butt. Love or not, he is putting your health and your dogs health in jeopardy with that. 

 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

#fuckthat

#nottodaysatan

Post # 7
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9809 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

THIS IS NOT BIG DADDY. We do not cover messes with newspaper people!

Post # 10
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1310 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

He sounds like a Sims character.  And not a good one.

Based on your previous posts, I think you need to get out of this.  He does not treat you like a person – he does whatever he wants and expects you to clean up (literally, in this case).  Why don’t you value yourself more than this?

http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/fi-addicted-to-online-gaming-spends-lots-of-money/

http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/not-sure-if-he-is-enough-for-me-anymore/

http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/should-i-seek-therapist/

 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

confusedandscared: he doesn’t actually respect you, because if he did, he would actually make an effort to help clean. 

What you describe is beyond simple messiness / dirtiness to filth that can be a health hazard. Poop on the floor?! It’s dangerous for you and heaven forbid you bring kids into this situation. It would be irresponsible to have babies in this situation — they put everything in their mouths and secondhand smoke is dangerous to their developing respiratory systems. 

Darling Husband grew up in filth much like you describe. He’s not a neat person (a lot of leaving plates, leaving clothes around) but if I ask him to put his dishes in the sink, he does. We have a maid because he knows we need the help. 

Don’t marry someone hoping they change. If he’s not willing to change, think about if you’re willing to live like this for the rest of your life. You can love someone but not be compatible with him or her.

Post # 12
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3389 posts
Sugar bee

Based on the title I was expecting that he left his own poop on the floor 😳🙈

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2014

He goes to bed and sleeps with his shoes on?

This is more than being messy and disorganized, maybe he has a legitimate psychological issue. Is he depressed, maybe? I know when I went through a bad depression I had no desire to clean the house at all. 

It sounds like you two are on two end of the spectrum and if you’re relationship has any chance of working you both need to compromise and meet in the middle (ok, probably a little closer to your side). It’s ok to be a little messy (I’ve never met a man that could work a hamper, lol), but living in filth is not ok and not healthy. Not cleaning up bodily fluids in a timely manner is not ok and not healthy, especially not for children. I would not marry him until this was sorted out. It sounds like counseling is in order.

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

confusedandscared:  Please don’t say it’s not a deal breaker. It IS a deal breaker.

You were born with two feet. Use them.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

Gross!

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