- 6 years ago
I tired posting to my initial thread but that thread got closed. So I decided to give an update here.
As I mentioned a few days ago on my last post, my Fiancé asked me to go and meet him in Vegas. I did go down and for once in my life it actually turned out to be the right thing to do.
He actually came and picked me up at the airport. The drive to the hotel was kind of quiet and awkward. When we got to the hotel we decided to go for lunch. Lunch lasted over three hours and at first it was me doing most of the talking. I apologized for not telling him the truth when we first had our “previous relationships talk.” I explained that I didn’t do it to hurt him; rather I did it to keep him – selfish, I know. I figured my colorful past would probably be a deal breaker to him if he knew. I also said that my being reserved in the bedroom was also because I worried that if I “went for it” he’d think I had a past that was unacceptable.
When he started opening up, he said that my past would have made him uneasy but that would have been way better than having it “rubbed in his face” at the party. He said he was just dumbstruck that first night. When he thought about it the next day he felt humiliated and got very angry, and he felt like he had been played for a sucker by both me and by my ex and by guy#2 (whose name he now has).
I told him I loved him and he said he loved me too. I told him I wanted “us” to work out and he said he does too. Anyway, things got kind of blubbery so we went to the bar and held hands and had some drinks. By the time we got to the room we were more relaxed with each other than we’ve been since that party.
We did NOT have a threesome! I did, however, show him another side of me – the real sexual side of me. I did my best to rock his world, and dare I say it? He loved it!!! We definitely got waaay more adventurous that night than I’ve ever been with him before – he had a great time and I had a great time pleasing my man!
At breakfast the next morning we talked numbers – I was honest. Not complete details of activities, but anything he asked I answered honestly. He seemed accepting. He said that he was jealous that I had experiences with other guys that I did not have with him. (we went a long way to erasing most of those in Vegas!). Also, I made sure that that night I did something to him that he did not even ask for – he was kind of shocked but completely enjoyed himself. AND I made a point of saying that even though guys have asked for that in the past I have never done that to anybody but him – and that was the truth.
He had the most lovable goofiest proudest look on his face the entire time we were there. It was like we started dating all over again. I know, it was male ego all along. About the threesome thing….he asked me if I was still willing. I said that I was, but I suggested that maybe we keep THAT for the next trip or special occasion. He laughed, said OK, and hugged me.
So my fiancé and I are really on the mend. The immediate issue that remains in his eyes, is how to deal with the people who “know.” I’ve told him that I will no longer be communicating with either of the “two guys.” He doesn’t know how to act or behave with the rest of our social circle. I told him that other than that other couple I’m pretty sure nobody else heard that night. He, however, thinks that word has probably gone around and that everybody will be looking at him “funny.” I would greatly appreciate any suggestions on how we can proceed with this entire “friends who know” situation.