(Closed) My Fiance found out……..Vegas and beyond

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

So glad it went as well as it did, Sending good vibes your way! So glad you both talked it out and are on the road to recovery!!!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper

I am so happy for you, I remember the other thread. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I read the first few posts in the other thread and all i have to say is – yay!! So happy for you.

 

As for the advice thing – is there any way he could look at is playing to his ego again – you group of friends may know, but you also know what none of you have access to? Kind of silly, but some guys seem to need that angle (my Fiance included).

 

Just play it up that he came out the best of anyone at the party?

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Two very enthusiastic thumbs up from me. As for people knowing…who cares?? We all have colorful pasts, if they have something snooty to say about then they are probably just jealous.  

Post # 8
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Helper bee

Hmm… good that you’re working things out.

I hope you didn’t do anything out guilt/pressure/fear of losing him, though, but because you genuinely WANTED to. 

 

As to the friends, I’m confused as to why he things people would think what you did in your past would reflect on HIM? You didn’t even know him then, right?

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

ooh Yay! I’m so glad things are looking good for you two!

Post # 11
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Helper bee

@Worldeyes:  Hmm, I guess I just don’t get it. It sounds like he sees it as somewhat shameful? But to me that doesn’t make sense because he wants to do it too!

I guess what I would do is decide that anyone who would judge me or my significant other about either of our sexual pasts doesn’t need to be involved in our lives.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Glad you are able to work things out.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

@Worldeyes:  I get it. He wants you to only be his freak and not anyone else’s (now or in the past). Most men feel this way, it’s just that the past is usually not brought so abrubtly to their attention to the point where they can’t ignore it, as it was in your FI’s case.

My advice would be to just continue to make him feel special, both in and out of the sack. Just stay honest and continue to strengthen your bond, and it should begin to bother him less and less. And great idea to cut those 2 guys out of your life completely.

So glad things went well in Vegas 🙂 Wish you guys the best! 

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

That’s awesome!  The male ego can be a bitch to hurdle! 😉

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I think you have done amazingly well at coping with all of this and working things out with your Fiance. I am so happy for you. And it sounds like your relationship just got a boost of excitement too!

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