Post # 47
Well my Fiance came with me when I tried on dresses. The one I chose, he doesn’t like. But it doesn’t matter how many dresses I show him, he won’t like any. I don’t think he knows WHAT he likes.
So, that was me trying to make you feel better. From the moment I chose it, he didn’t like it, and I ordered it anyway. The dress is me. It is exactly who I am. I feel comfortable, elegant and like myself. So, I’m wearing it. And I am convinced that on that day, when he sees me, he won’t even be thinking about my dress, at all. Us ladies will be the only ones obsessing over the dress. Plus, I don’t think he ever notices clothing, unless I specifically ask him.
But, not gonna lie- it would hurt me too, if my dress was a surprise, and someone else was wearing it and he actually verbalized his distaste for it. I would think for a minute about getting a new dress, but, I doubt I would get one. Also, I am sure that when YOU wear that dress, it will look totally different. And I doubt he will be looking at your dress. You will look beautiful to him no matter what. Which is why I chose a dress that I love and my Fiance doesn’t. Cause the dress is not nearly as important to him, as it is to me.
Wear it. Shock him at how you can make a dress he THOUGHT was ugly, beautiful, because YOU, wore it.
Post # 48
Your story is awesome (yes sad, but in hindsight–awesome). If you love the dress, KEEP IT! You’ll glow!
Post # 49
to be honest two women can wear the exact same dress and make it look totally different.. just because he didnt like it on her doesnt mean he would automatically recognise it on u.. when a man loves a woman she could wear a burlap sack n still be hot to him…
i do feel bad for you though that he now knows what ur dress looks like… this is tough one.
Post # 50
oh and i agree with circus peanut.. your Fiance really wasnt being sensitive at all…
Post # 51
Awwwww, he will too be surprised when he sees you! He’s never seen YOU in that dress! That’s what really makes all the difference. You are going to look amazing and he’s going to be so happy that day anyway, don’t even let it bother you! *hugs!*
Post # 52
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
So what did you decide to do?
I hope that you kept it.
Post # 53
I’d totally get a new dress! You still have time to go look. There’d be no question about it for me, not so much (or at least completely) because the guy didn’t like but, mainly because now it has so many bad feelings and memories attached to it!!! I’d want to feel absolutely beautiful in my dress and would hope to shock (in a good way) my FH when he first sees me in it… He knows what it is, you know he doesn’t like the way it looks, AND you have all these bad feelings and memories attached to it now. I’d sell it and go get a different dress for sure!
Post # 54
I’ve tried to squeeze opinions out of my Fiance about a dress before too and the reality of it is they don’t care what you wear. I know! It sounds so strange that we put so much time and effort into something so sacred to find they don’t care! But it’s true! They want to marry YOU. Not the dress, the hair, the shoes, or even the table covers. Just you. If you find a dress that you adore and feel amazing in then that confidence and beauty will shine through and he will notice and will love it.
Post # 55
It seems like a lot of money to spend… Why don’t you just tell him that you have the dress he doesn’t like and see what he says. Then, if he wants you to get another one, you can have him work overtime to pay for it!!!
Post # 56
I would probably get a new dress beacuse I would be thinking about it all day. And no matter how beautiful my Fiance told me I looked on my wedding day, I would think he was just trying to make me feel bettter. Obviously that’s just me.
When will men learn to keep their mouths shut?
Post # 57
God, men are shockin’ stupid.
My brother did what Rivetor’s guy did – shot his mouth off about a “rotten” dress on the TV, that was her dress precisely! My SIL turned off the telly, told him he was thick and didn’t know anything about dresses or weddings or anything and he shouldn’t open his mouth about any of it anymore. So he didn’t, she kept her dress, and he thought she looked amazing on the day.
He’s just an idiot. If he’s not a designer of some sort, you just can’t be listening to a man about things like this.