- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
I think I read this right: he gets drunk like once a week? you get mad at him and make him stop drinking all together?
I don’t think he is an acoholic, I think He is a Guy. You may not realize it but when you get all upset and make him stay sober all the time he probably builds up a resentment and then takes his freedom when he can and goes and does all of his drinking. Thus he gets drunk.
My Fiance is a beer nerd aka he loves to try new beers, is all about the craft, and has buddies that he knows from beer tastings. If I made him stop drinking all together then I could easily see him doing what your Fiance does. He would find time away from me where he would do all his drinking and thus get drunk. I also think that over time he would resent me for it. my fi on average has 1-3 beers a night about 4 nights a week depending on if its a trio, tasting, etc. Is he an acoholic? no. He has a hobby that I don’t like the taste of lol (I often have wine though)
I think you need to sit down with your Fiance and let him know that him coming home drunk really upsets you. however you also need to understand that he is an adult and should be allowed to have a drink everynow and then. Perhaps if he is worried about drinking at all around you, his behavior has changed to reflect what he is doing now. If he understood that its the drunk vs the drinking that has you upset he would be more likely to space out his drinking so that he can enjoy time with his friends and have a beer but you also don’t have to make sure he isn’t puking on you in his sleep.