(Closed) My fiance is being a jerk about flowers.

posted 5 years ago in Flowers
Post # 3
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491 posts
Helper bee

Maybe explain to him all of the things you have compromised on and as that he  compromise with you on this one. 

Tell him even though the flowers die, you will have photos of them forever and you would really love to have these flowers. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

No flowers? Like, at all? While there are plenty of beautiful flowerless weddings that you can draw inspiration from, that is not what this about. You need to put your foot down and get the one thing you envisioned for your day. This is not all about him. Maybe have your dad step in and say that the money is for what you *both* want.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

He can’t do this one thing even though he knows how important it is to you? Does he not want ANY flowers? Maybe you can use some off your own savings towards your flowers? I find it kind of ridiculous that you’ve had to concede on everything and there’s no compromise on your fiance’s part. That’s a pretty decent price for ranunculus, maybe just have a big beautiful bouquet of it? Ranunculus is my favorite flower as well, if its important to you, he should understand.

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@peachacid:  Is he totally unable to compromise on anything in life?

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

What do you mean, there’s nothing you can do? It sounds like you’ve made a TON of compromises here. Why do you have to cave on the venue, food, favors, honeymoon, even the freaking tablecloths and he can’t let you spend $500 on the flowers you want??

 

And I love ranunculus, we used them – they’re gorgeous!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@peachacid:  That is a good reason. An even better reason is that having to compromise on yet another damn thing you want and can’t have is already causing you this much frustration, and I’m sure it’s far from over. Seriously, I’m mad for you, it sounds like he’s taking the simple pleasures out of your wedding day. Ask him if he’d rather save a couple hundred bucks and spend his wedding day with a bitter bride who didn’t get any details she wanted, or if he would like to reconsider. 

 

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Bleh, that sucks. Can you at least have them for your bouquet so you get your fix somewhere?

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@peachacid:  Well hell’s bells. Tell him that an orgasm only lasts like 10 seconds, so why should you do all of that work for essentially nothing? 😉

 

In all seriousness, that really stinks that he’s being such a butt about it. Can you tell him what you’ve told us about having to compromise on EVERYTHING ELSE and wanting just this one thing? Isn’t your happiness enough? Boo. How about just having your bouquet be all ranunculus then doing something else for Bridesmaid or Best Man bouqs, the bouts, centerpieces, etc and cutting the cost by half?

Post # 14
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1966 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Wonderstruck:  this!

No way I’d let it go thar easily! Why should he get everything he wants?? isn’t it your wedding to? Eff that.

Post # 15
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853 posts
Busy bee

What jerkish behaviour. The honeymoon thing would piss me off to no end, to begin with. That’s actually a pretty big decision, IMO.

And the flowers thing – c’mon $500 is really reasonable for flowers. And ranunculus is beautiful (I just Googled it). It’s not even his money for Christ’s sake. This is really controlling and uncompormising behaviour. He’s going to take all the fun out of the whole wedding process.

I’d put my foot down if I were you, for two major reasons 1. Just for the principle of the matter. You need to make a point that your wishes are important too. 2. Your last sentence in your OP sounded so defeated. You need to show him that you will not always back down when he wants his own way. 

 

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