(Closed) My fiance is going to be gone for nine months.

posted 7 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
  • poll: What would you do?
    Move in with him where he is going, rent a furnished place, and pay someone to takecare of our home : (12 votes)
    46 %
    Move in with him, sell our house so we don't have mortgage plus rent in another city to worry about : (2 votes)
    8 %
    3)Stay at home, and wait to see him. Which will turn out to be once a month most likely : (8 votes)
    31 %
    4)Stay at home for 2 weeks, and then go see him for 2 weeks, and go back and forth, with our son in : (2 votes)
    8 %
    Other??? : (2 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
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    10287 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    How far are we talking? If it’s somewhere within driving distance then I think option 4 may work out the best for you. If we’re talking like a plane ride then I would probably go with option 1, if you can afford that. I don’t think I would consider selling my home unless this move was going to be permanent. 

    Post # 4
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    11 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Can you rent out your place through a service that finds someone reliable etc?  If so than choice one would be taken care of already.

     

    I say one if you can find a service to find someone financially stable, great credit, and reliable etc.

     

    Otherwise I say four.  I will vote once I see if you can do the above.  ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 6
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    83 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    A similar thing happened to us, we found a property management company that rented out our house while we were gone and it worked out great!  The rent almost covered our mortgage, and since it was short term anyway we were happy.  They found a really great family to rent our place, and took care of all the details!

    I always think that if you own property, it’s best to hang on to it- but that’s just my opinion ๐Ÿ™‚  I may think that way because I live in Southern California where property is pretty expensive to buy!

    Post # 8
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    11 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Ok, I say keep it then.  Do you have a single friend that wouldn’t mind staying there?  I had a gf go to Costa Rica for work and I kept the place up while she was away so it worked out well bc I only paid bills for what I used, no rent, she knew her home was safe.

    Is that an option?

    Hope these questions help and not add to your stress level.  ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 9
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    1766 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Renting out for only 9 months will be difficult, unless it falls into the academic year and you don’t mind renting to college students. 

    A friend of mine rented out his house, originally for a year, and moved in with a relative to save some money, and has had trouble getting the renters out after the lease expired. The tenants are a young couple and she got pregnant during the rent time and decided they could not move out under any circumstances. Tenant laws in MA make it almost impossible to get a tenant out of your property. Maybe it’s easier in Canada, I don’t know.

    Post # 10
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    7777 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Honestly? I say just stay at home. I’ve been long distance with Darling Husband for the past 2 years and we see each other for a week or two every 3 or 4 months because he is stationed in another state. It sucks, but it’s only temporary. 9 months isn’t very long, in the scope of things. Plus, you’ll get to see him every month. Skype is a wonderful thing.

    Post # 11
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    5921 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    My husband works out of state every year from March-September, and he does NOT get to come home at all.  Unfortunately he is not in the same place for more than 3-4 days, so I have to look at his schedule and work out times to come down.

    For instance, last week he was in Lexington for 5 days, so I drove the 7 hours there and spent the whole week with him.  He will be back in Lexington for 4 days next week, so I am driving back again.

    Sometimes it sucks, but we make it work.  We Skype every few days, and it works really, really well.  You’ll figure it all out!

    Post # 12
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    5984 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I know this will be hard but I say to stay at home and I dont think you should spend all that money flying back in forth every week to see eachother. I cannot imagine seeing Darling Husband only every month but it is only for 9 months. you can do this. you dont want to put yourself in financial trouble for this. also, are you a stay at home mom or do you work outside fo the home? just curious because of having to quit your job to leave. and as someone else suggested SKYPE! it will make a huge difference. good luck

    Post # 13
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    5984 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    oh, and i dont recommend putting your son through the stress of traveling to see him a lot. that is a lot for a 19 month old since it is not neccessary

    Post # 15
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    1995 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I’d look into leasing your current home out.  Check out a property management company locally and see if it’s possible.  You may have to put some of your stuff or furniture in storage for that time but atleast you could make some $$. 

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